13 weeks and STILL worrying about miscarriage

[CobaltRose]

I'm now 13+2 and STILL can't stop worrying about having a miscarriage 😔

This is my second pregnancy but will hopefully be my first baby. Back in April I suffered a missed miscarriage. I was supposed to be 12 weeks, but a scan revealed baby had died at 6 weeks.

I'm now 13 weeks with my rainbow and even though everything seems fine, I still can't stop worrying. I had my dating scan on Thursday and baby was perfect, measuring three days ahead, wiggling around and their little heart beating away. Sonographer even showed me their spine, brain, and little hands and feet ❤

But I'm still terrified something may go wrong between now and my next scan in October! I guess having a previous loss takes the joy out of subsequent pregnancies 😔 I've told people I'm pregnant now and have even started getting a little bump which has made it feel more real.

Can anyone else relate? Picture of my squidge because it's adorable ❤

Your scan photo is the cutest! They look so snug.

I can completely relate, I think pregnancy after miscarriage is so hard. I also had a MMC in my previous pregnancy and it’s made me so paranoid this pregnancy, I’m 20 weeks now and terrified they’ll find something wrong at the scan this week.

I don’t really have any words of wisdom to make it all better but I personally found the best thing was just to try and take it day by day and remember the stats are on your side. Mini milestones help like now focusing on getting to your next midwife appointment and then after that the 20 week scan.. etc

Aw thank you, I think the sonographer managed to get a good shot! Crazy to think that little person is inside me right now!

Thank you, your words have been very reassuring. Pregnancy is such an anxious time!

It’s so anxious isn’t it! I often wonder how I would be feeling now if I hadn’t experienced a MC before, I’m sure I would have been a lot more laid back about the whole thing! However I’m sure that once our little ones are in our arms all of the worry and stress will be worth it ❤️

Hello. I lost a baby in March and I'm now nearly 18 weeks. I change between worry and excitement. The Miscarriage Association Pregnant After Loss Facebook group can be helpful as everyone is in the same boat. Best wishes xx

I had a miscarriage at 15 weeks so with this pregnancy I did have to throw my hands up and say "what will be, will be" there's nothing I could do to stop bad things happening.
I did however have a wobble at 16 weeks so booked a sexing scan, but really it was just to see if the baby was ok. At that point I was getting the occasional nudge from him but nothing regular or strong enough for me to be reassured throughout the day.

The scan was fine, it was lovely and shortly after that I got regular movement that reassured me.

So really, I can only speak from my own experience and suggest you book a private scan and at least you can count down the days until then?

I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I've never experienced pregnancy loss yet still worried. I worried until my 20 week scan about mmc; now I'm 36 weeks and worrying about complications etc. It's just a worrying time in general. I've kind of just decided what will happen will happen but one thing to hang on to is that now you're at the 13 week mark, more likely than not you will bring home a healthy baby... and every day increases that chance further:)

Once they are born there's a whooooole other set of worries as well.

Can totally relate. Also had a MC at 11 weeks. Am now almost 22 weeks. I had a panic attack going into first scan and all was well. One week later and I was panicking again. Personally I found the time between 12 week scan and 18 weeks really hard. I had no pregnancy symptoms and wasn't feeling movement. Nothing I can do to stop you worrying but at least you know you're not the only one! Mini milestones really do help. Also I had 16 week midwife appointment when. She listened to heartbeat and I asked her for an extra appointment at 18+5 just to put my mind at rest which really helped. So taking it two weeks at a time. Now I feel movement daily and have had a perfect anomaly scan so trying to relax a bit. Just take one day at a time. The risk of MC now is incredibly low.

Hi all!

Congratulations on your pregnancy OP and on making it to this milestone!! I understand your anxiety totally.

I got my bfp yesterday. I had an MC last summer and have been desperate to get pregnant again since . DP wanted to wait until now.

Anyway now it's happened and it's sooooo hard not to freak out! I don't know how I'm going to get through until the twelve week scan.

Did this time drag like crazy for you ??

I'd love some advise on getting through this time period as well!

No advice as such as I’ve never experienced a loss but wanted to say congrats @CobaltRose. I was on a few of the same TTC buses with you and it saddened me to see your update regarding your mmc. Delighted that you are now 13 weeks and missing you a happy and healthy pregnancy.

PS. I’m 16 weeks now and still worry that something will be wrong at my 20 week scan. I don’t think that you ever stop worrying until baby is in your arms x

wishing and not ‘missing’ - doh! Baby brain has kicked in this evening!