Pregnant, depressed, anxious and rageful

[FMBT2]

Hi
I am 17 weeks pregnant and feel very low. I feel like my partner has done nothing in terms of getting the flat ready and I'm very angry towards him and don't know if I want to stay with him.

I had taken ante depressants pre preg and probably not doing too well without them but don't want to risk any effects. I am also old at 43.

I was refereed to perinatal and they have lost my refferal.

I sometimes think I don't want the baby

Hi sorry to hear you are going through this. Do you have any support in real life?

I can understand feeling like your partner is not supportive. Mine can be like that!

I’m 17w too and v happy to be pregnant but have had some low points (I’m assuming hormones but I’ve had that kind of thing from time to time even before I was pregnant so may be prone to mild depression).

I’m assuming you can’t take your medication while pregnant. Can you go for counselling or something? I understand they fast track you if you need support while pregnant.

17 Weeks is still very early to be annoyed at your partner for not getting the flat ready... but I do understand how little things can build up and can make you feel this way.

I would get in contact with your midwife and ask for another referral, you should get one as it's important to talk with a professional about mental health.

And maybe have a face to face chat with your partner, he might not be fully aware of your feelings?

Hi, What needs doing to the flat? Have you told your partner what needs to be done?
I think that you might need to see the Doctor as you do sound a bit down, he will know which anti-depressants are safe for you to take while pregnant.
And you're not old at 43 by any means.
I hope you start to feel better OP and begin to look forward to your lovely little baby who is in the way.

Hi
Thanks for your messages.
I have suggested some practical things that need doing. I think it's lots of little things built up. Its his flat rather than ours and its small and he has 2000 records in the living room.
I am craving my own space. I 've house sat for a friend for a week and stayed at another friends for a week
I saw the gp and he suggested anti depressants I just worry about side effects. They have made refferal again.

@FMBT2 I'm on antidepressants and am 37 weeks pregnant now, my gp told me that being on them and happy is much better for the baby than the hormones that your body releases when you are anxious and depressed! I have also worked really hard to get my dose right down so when he is born he will have next to nothing in his system! I've gradually come down from 20mg per day to 8mg and next week probably going down to 5mg if you feel you need the meds take then at the end of the day they won't give you anything that is harmful :)

Don't get me wrong I certainly still get days that I think I can't cope but they are seriously out weighed by good days!

To be fair, 17 weeks is incredibly early to be sorting out a flat for the baby... not even half way there! We started getting ours sorted at around 32 or 33 weeks.