Finding Friends

[jent85]

As awfully sad as the title suggests, I've come to realise at 8 months pregnant the majority of my "close friends" were actually just good-time mates to go get p*ssed with/clubbing/pull.....therefore have literally no interest in me or my baby/pregnancy any more.

Fair enough, lesson learned (as painful as it is).

But I'm so worried about being lonely, not having someone to go for a coffee and chat with or a supportive group to turn to. With previous MH worries, I'm becoming so anxious about this and can't allow it to effect my baby.

Where have you found bonds/friends/etc when becoming a new mother? Any suggestions are hugely welcome ❤️

I also realise this post sounds a bit "poor me" so apologies for that tone if so. I also want my baby to socialise/be around other babies etc to support her development so I'm not just thinking of myself.

Tia. X

Hi, can totally sympathise, I've been feeling similar... I'm hoping to meet new mums, there seem to be so many baby groups but it would be nice to meet a few people before too! Where are you in the country? I've been going to pregnancy yoga which is helping meet expectant mums!

I was in the exact same position as you. My 'friends' all lost interest in me once the novelty of a new baby wore off. I joined an app called mush, not really expecting much from it. But I met a first time mum, the same as me. Our babies were born 10 days apart and she actually lives round the corner from me! We're now amazingly close, we see eachother often and our babies enjoy each others company.

I know how lonely it can be, my family live an hour away and I don't drive so I found myself sitting in the house each day doing nothing while pregnant.

It's hard, but try and get out and about. See if there's any antenatal groups in your area, speak to your midwife and ask her if she can recommend any.

Try and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy, not long til your little bundle of joy Is here! 👶🏼

Thank you both, both really helpful answers!

I'm in the East Midlands. I was going to start pregnancy yoga but the only class near me clashes with my antenatal classes so I had to choose what was most important.

There just seems to be nothing around here ie No antenatal exercise or aqua classes etc unless I drive 25/30 mins and that's becoming a struggle as it is. It's really surprised me to be honest.

You're completely right though - I'm going to throw myself into baby & mother classes once she's here. Was just worrying about loneliness when on maternity.

Great idea about the app - I'll take a look at Mush.

Thankyou both ❤️

I'm in the East Midlands too, I found it hard to find things to do!

Download the hoop app too, it tells you what's on in your area (when your baby is born) it shows what baby groups are on and when etc. Good luck lovely 😊

Hi Tia,
I’m in the same boat, have just moved to Lutterworth, East Midlands and although only at 20 weeks pregnant im struggling to find things to do in the area. Feel free to message me if you have any ideas or if you do happen to live near me!
😃

Ah Lutterworth is like the opposite side to me, I don't know it but yes if I find anything I'll deffo shout up!

Will definitely look into a couple of these apps people have mentioned too. They always made me a bit nervous but I think I'm being old 😂

Feel better already. Thanks MN! X

I'm 8 months pregnant and I'm in blaby Leicester, I'm in the same boat all my friends are non existent now and im feeling abit lonely as it's not as easy to talk to my other half as guys just don't chit chat and have a good old natter about things, where abouts are you xx

I've heard a lot of people made friends when pregnant at NCT classes.

Never been so I don't know but it might be worth looking into?

I found the mush app really helpful. U can find other mums/ mums to be in your area and meet up for coffee etc. I've made some really good friends through this app. Also try and sell out a local mothercare and bay group at your local library/community centre. Great place to make friends with people with kids a similar age x