Please please somebody - why do I still feel so utterly shite?!!!

[Holymoly321]

I'm 17+4 weeks preg with second child. First time round, no probs at all with preg. This time however, I feel utterly crap! I thought the morning sickness was supposed to end at 12 weeks? It did go for about a week and is now back with a vengence. ALso have constant headache and feel tired and generally crappy. Help me please - I really can't handle another five months of this

girl?

get checked out if you have headache as well as actually being sick, as you may be slightly dehydtaed.

it will stop soon.

your hormones are raging and that is a good sign.

it won't be long - it honestly won't be 5 months like this.

I've had much less sickness this time round smiling but I still have a constant headache & it's become a migraine on about 5 occassions in the last fortnight. Getting pretty p'd off. I was sick with DD up till 24 weeks but this time it was pretty much gone by about wk 13 & I've only had the odd day of feeling a wee bit pukey since but I don't remember headaches lasting as long as this last time. I'm 17+3 so pretty similar. Can only sympathise, are you getting enough fluids, sleep, food? All these things, or lack of, I know can cause headaches but none of them seem to be helping me apart from coke, no other sugar fix seems to make a difference but it definitely helps. No other suggestions but feel for you too. Dod you know what you're having and is it different from last time I don't but it might explain yours.

I'm trying to drink as much water as poss, but with a toddler running round it's easy to forget! Am trying also to eat little and often but this is very diff when i feel sick all the time. Cant' manage anything fancier than a sandwich or a bowl of cocopops (and even they are becoming sickly!). Anyone got any tips of how to deal with sickness? I'm almost in tears everynight now because I feel so fed up and crappy.

girl, me thinks...... have you tried dried ginger, or lemon and ginger tea?

what's your first, boy or girl?

Agree with BishyBarneyBee... it will ease hopefully.

I had it bad both times....dd1 was 9 months when fell pg with dd2.....had to get friends and family to help daily...as i couldn't stop being vommy!
It did get better 6 months

First was a boy, methinks this one could be a girl because of all the hassle she is causing me!!! Be interesting to find out in 3 weeks. Can't do dried ginger - urgh! anything else? DH has to bring me a dry cream cracker inn bed everymorning before i can even get up...

I was doing Frosties for breakfast, lunch & tea at one point but I know what you mean, one days it's refreshing the next you could throw up at the thought. I found ginger ale quite good as well as crusty bread with laughing cow, jam that type of thing. I admire lots of you going through this with toddlers, DD is 5 so more self sufficient & even she's a handful, don't think I could do it with a tiny one.

first time round I had bad m/s and was banking on it getting better at 12wks - finally started to feel better at 22wks......

This time round was pleasantly suprised when it lifted at 17-18wks

Hang in there, hopefully youo will start feeling better soon

Orangina! I'm 20 weeks tomorow and still occasionally feeling sick. For a couple of weeks orangina was pretty much all I could stomach.

Heard other people say fizzy water helps too as well as 'grazing' where you eat little and often through the day, say every hour

dd made me sick all the way through, which the ds's didn't. I used to run downstairs, give them breakfast, and then they would sit and do vomiting impressions as I was bent over the loo.... it's very hard to vom when you are laughing!!! (and it did make me laugh my one and two year olds going 'heurrggghhh' behind me!

Have you thought about getting some meds from your GP? There is some good stuff around nowadays which won't harm the baby. I took several things to try and help with the nausea, which I had till about 18-20weeks this time (yuk)

Try most of all to stay hydrated, I found something very helpful was home made milkshakes with lots of ice, I lived on these for hours sometimes, and always felt way better after (almost able to eat again) - fluid levels are very important and I'm rubbish at drinking even when i don't feel sick! But seeing as the milk has lots of nourishment, it takes the pressure off and helps your blood sugar too (common reason for everything seeming awful, when you haven't had enough calories).

My Dr. said she had craved milk so it must be Ok!!

But seriously, ask for something to help, there's Phenergan, Cyclizine, Stemitil, all sorts of stuff to try, stronger ones if it's not working.

My heart goes out to you, but I think there's still hope at this stage, really I do. You might be fine in a couple of weeks!
(aaaahhh Bliss)

Must emphasise that a lack of hydration (easy to get into) really does make you feel a zillion times worse, I learnt this from the American forums, and didn't believe it but it really is true!

Hi Smiling. I had this too. Am currently 23 wks pg with our first but suffered from all day sickness for three weeks initially. It went and then came back at about 12 weeks and I was sick every single morning. I would also suffer from horrendous headaches too no matter how much water I drank.

You can get through this. Ensure that DH gives you some alone time so that you can chill out as much as you can (I appreciate that this is hard with a toddler hence enlisting DH's help).

Hi Smiling. I've been in the same situation. With my first I was nauseous up til about 12 weeks and then had loads of energy. This time round (currently 29 +5 weeks) and I was nauseous until about 19 weeks. I have had no energy at all but I put that down to having a toddler to look after and a full time job. I have to be up at 6:30 every morning (which I find a struggle) and I go to bed around 10pm. Dd is going through a phase of waking in the night which is really tiring and I feel like I'm running on autopilot most of the time. I hope you start to feel better soon.

Thanks everyone for your support! Sad to hear that so many of you are going thru (or have been thru) the same things. God men have it easy!!!! Isn't it enough we have to go through labour??!!! I have been sipping water all day long now, no change yet, but fingers crossed! Good luck to anyone out there going thru M/S hell!

And to top it all off, started shivering with sweats this morning - GP has given me antibiotics for a urinary infection! Blooming typical !!!!!

Maybe you'll start to feel better tho'. Darkest before the dawn & all that .

Hi Smiling - hopefully you will be better now you have had antibiotics from GP. Drinking lots of water will help flush the bad stuff out and help with headaches.

I know what you mean about feeling fed up. I am still being sick at 20 weeks and whilst I can't stay awake past 9.30pm I am up at ridiculous times in the morning - 4/5 am and I can't go back to sleep. Little one starts kicking and I am wide awake. Are you sleeping well?

I bloomed with my DD and stopped being sick at 13 weeks but this time I am shattered depressed and can't wait to get the baby out. It is reassuring to know that we are not alone!

The only way I am coping is by sitting down at the computer not moving for hours and not eating or drinking anything for about 2-3 hours after I wake up (I can't even hold water down).

I hope that you feel better soon

You might find ice lollies or weak diluted squash/juice easier than just water...they help keep your electrolyte balance up too, while water though it hydrates, isn't as effective.
Hope the UTI clears up very soon, what a place to be in, poor you!!

I felt ill until 19 weeks. It was awful. All I can say is try to get as much rest as you can possibly manage and don't feel bad about it - you really do need it!

You won't have another 5 months of this, honest you won't.,
And feeling sick means everything is ok. The moment I stopped feeling sick I started to owrry instead and I would have taken the sickness back gladly.
I know it's rubbish but it does mean that everything is OK, try and focus on that and nibble a ginger biscy=uit. Eat little and often and make your DH run round after you!

Congratulations btw