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Gem2410 · 01/09/2018 08:55

I'm new to all this and just looking for advice.
I know different people have different beliefs and some may find this post hard to understand but please no negative comments, I'm just looking for guidance and support.
I am a mum to a 5 year old son. I am no longer with his dad and have been with my new partner for a year now. My new partner has 2 children from previous relationships, a little girl who he is being denied access too and a son who he sees regularly.
I have recently found out I am pregnant, around 5 weeks. My partner has voiced his opinion and told me he isn't ready for another child, it's not the right time for him and feels it's the wrong decision to go ahead with the pregnancy. We've had days of arguing over this as I feel like he's being unfair. I gave in and told him he was right just to stop all the arguments.
I can't help but feel deep down that he is wrong & that there is never a right time, it's just life and we have to go with it. I want this baby but I don't want to have it with a dad that isn't bothered and has said the things he has about the situation and will possibly even resent me for it. I just don't know what to do for the best. Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Xx

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ImNotBusyImLazy · 01/09/2018 09:04

From what you’ve written, it seems that you want this baby, even though you recognize the circumstances are not ideal. You say he might resent you for going through with the pregnancy, but how will YOU feel towards him if you terminate against your true feelings? Probably also resentful. Do not rush into a decision you may regret to appease a partner of 1 year.

FWIW, I am pro choice and am only trying to help you, not persuade you! Good luck with your decision, either way.

Stephisaur · 01/09/2018 13:23

I’m sorry you’re in this situation.

I think you need to consider what would happen if you went through with the pregnancy. If the dad upped and left, how would you feel about that? If you terminated to appease him, how would that make you feel?

I’m 100% pro choice so not trying to sway you either way, just some bits you need to consider.

Good luck in your decision Flowers

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