2 under 2

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I have just found out I am pregnant and I have a 10 month old.. this means I'm going to have two under two. I feel guilty that I'm not giving my current child all my undivided attention which she deserves.. and I just keep thinking how will I cope.. tips and advice please

There is 17 months between my eldest two they have always had a close bond (boy and girl) baby will sleep alot the first few months normally and your toddler will still nap so its just finding the balance when the baby is here. It will be ok, u will just naturally spend time with both equally. I would always have mummy and DS time when baby was sleeping and he adored my DD he would rub her feet when she was feeding. Its hard work at times but they are 8 and soon to be 7 now and are still close. We also have a soon to be 4 yr old DD and I'm 33 weeks with another DS. X

I'm 12 weeks pregnant and DD has just turned 8 months!!

We've always planned on having two close together, I just didn't expect to get pregnant on our first try! Lol!

I have a 12month gap between my first two. Please don't feel guilty there are many benefits to having a small gap, it was hard at times but not as bad as all the joy Hoover's said. Don't do too much, I had to reign in my expectations on what I could achieve some days. I found going too groups great as people love a cuddle giving you a chance to catch up with older sibling. When you go out, plan ahead makes getting out the door easier. Try and relax, if you have a tough day don't dwell on it and look forward to when they start playing together. It can't be too bad as I am now pregnant with dc4 and will have 4 under 5 next April.

I understand what you're saying about feeling guilty and that will never leave you but it is something they gradually adjust to it isn't a direct impact thing. For the first 6 months you will have loads of 1-1 time with dc1 while baby naps and naps and naps

In terms of coping you will just adapt. I had 2 under 2 and I have a spinal cord injury, having a physical disability makes parenting really hard but you still adapt. Mine are now 3 & 5 and I have another on the way. Best of luck

Hope u dont mind me jumping in.
I also planned to have my 2 close together, and they are 14 months apart. It might seem hard at first, but once you find a routine,
everything will work out fine. They were only one year different
In school age, so my eldest was always looking out for my
Youngest, and they share a lot of the same friends too. They are
Now 22 and 21 lol! And my daughter has just announced we are
Having grandchild number 2. She wanted her two close together
As well (because she liked growing up with a sibling that wasnt
Much older than her).

Lovely and reassuring messages from you ladies I have a 12 month old and due in 1 month. Nice to see life goes on! Best wishes OP xx