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laurenluke2017 · 31/08/2018 11:23

Help..

So i'm 33+2 days pregnant with a lovely little boy.
When I first got pregnant I wanted an elective c-section. But after family and friends and midwife persuaded me, I thought stop being silly and backed out of the c-section. After 6 months of counselling, hypnotherapy, everything you can imagine I have done to try and gear myself up for a vaginal delivery but I just cannot do it. I am registered at the JR but I know they will not do elective sections and are very very strict on it. I have now taken matters into my own hands I have phone Milton Keynes hospital ante-natal clinic and have asked my GP to refer me to them for an elective c section. Any advice from anyone? I really want this section as I am actually traumatised by this my aniexty is through the roof to the point I am having nightmares its effecting me emotionally and mentally.

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laurenluke2017 · 31/08/2018 16:16

My GP has referred me as per my request he has asked me to practice some breathing techniques. But I have my booking bloods at MK next Friday 7th and a chat with Midwife consultant and then go from there. I will try and plead my case as it does just not sit well with me and I cannot settle. My aniexty is through the roof.

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Yakadee · 31/08/2018 16:54

Hi op, sorry you're feeling so anxious, I totally get it. Pushing for a section myself after a very traumatic first labour.

My understanding is that you cannot simply be refused. Maybe do a bit of research to support your care. Look at the Nice.org guidelines. It's for practitioners but might help xx

Shushandpat · 31/08/2018 16:59

If you want a CS then get one booked in, you are not being silly at all. It is completely your choice and sounds like it would be the right choice for you. NICE guidance says that you can choose to have one if you want to. Be prepared to explain your reasons to the consultant when you get booked in. In my experience, they are not trying to prevent you from having one but need to make sure that you understand the risks and that you have given it enough thought.

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laurenluke2017 · 31/08/2018 17:02

Thanks for the help guys. You have made me feel a lot better, I have a booking appointment for bloods at MK next week. I am aware of the NICE guidelines as well as all the risks. It helps with my aniexty a lot reading your posts. Thanks Lauren xx

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Yakadee · 31/08/2018 17:52

Hope your appointment goes well and your mind is put at ease x

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laurenluke2017 · 31/08/2018 22:34

@Yakadee I hope yours goes well too. All I can do is try and plead my case. I will also say that there could be problems with my birth which could put my baby at risk, from me being traumatised etc and having a fit etc and if anything happened to him it would be there fault as I did ask for a c-section for these reasons. I will try anything and everything as Its waking me at night, i wake up in a cold sweat after having a nightmare from it. For my own health as well as my sons this is the best option for me. I have also given 6/7 months worth of therapy a go and still nothing so its not like I haven't tried or anything. Fingers crossed x

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Yakadee · 01/09/2018 08:39

@laurenluke2017 - I think you've given everything a really good go, surely they'll see that! It's not like you're taking 'the easy option' you want to make sure you're OK and your baby gets her safely. X

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laurenluke2017 · 01/09/2018 08:44

@Yakadee I 100% agree with you. Hopefully I just want the appointment now so my mind is at ease. I will keep persisting until I get one I just know I won't settle until its agreed. Thanks for being so supportive. I really have tried everything 7 months is a long time and effort of putting in hypnotherapy and counselling. Xx

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Yakadee · 01/09/2018 09:05

You're me but further along so totally get it! I'm sure they will see you've done everything you can. Good luck xx

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laurenluke2017 · 05/09/2018 14:25

@Yakadee quick update still waiting for my appointment but had midwife today and my son is breech so i could just get that section after all because he is feet first. Fingers crossed.. (praying my son stays breech now) xx

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Yakadee · 05/09/2018 19:48

Ahh well that's a result, fingers crossed it all pays off. Let me know xx

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laurenluke2017 · 07/10/2018 18:33

@Yakadee I got my section booked. Next Monday 15th woohoo x

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Yakadee · 07/10/2018 19:09

That's brilliant @laurenluke2017! I wish I was booked in for then (not due until 3rd Feb!)
Hope everything goes well - let me know when baby is here xxx

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laurenluke2017 · 07/10/2018 20:34

@Yakadee I got my section although he is not breech anymore. He is head down. Only a week left though so cannot wait x

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Yakadee · 07/10/2018 20:51

Is it your first? X

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laurenluke2017 · 07/10/2018 21:01

@Yakadee yes it is very excited x

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Yakadee · 07/10/2018 21:08

Aww lovely! It's amazing. I have a 2.5yo son and he's just the best! So gorgeous and funny xx

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