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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Just need to vent

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amylittle88 · 30/08/2018 12:56

I'm 14 weeks pregnant today with my first baby and have had a horrific first 3 months. I was told I would never be able to conceive or carry so this pregnancy is an absolute miracle. I am so happy but utterly miserable at the same time.

I live with chronic pain but decided to stop taking all my medication. My Dr only said I had to stop taking one of my tablets but I could try reducing/stopping others if I wanted. So I have had quite bad hip, back and leg pain. My husband was totally with me when it came to stopping my medication but when I told him I had taken some of my pain relief when the pain was really intense he got really upset with me. He said it's not just you now and he was really off with me. 'why can't you just take paracetamol regularly because I know you haven't.' I know he just desperately wants the baby to be safe but I feel like whenever I've gotten upset or felt poorly he just tells me whatever I've been doing is wrong and that is why I'm feeling the way I am.

I've had morning, noon and night nausea and morning, noon and night sickness. I've been close to being admitted to hospital and on multiple different anti-sickness medications. At first he was really kind about it all and supportive but now it's just 'well you didn't eat anything the moment you got up' or 'you left it too long to eat after your antisickness' or 'don't brush your teeth first thing if you know its going to make you sick'. He doesn't seem to get that eating immediately makes me instantly sick or that when I wake up I feel like I've been hit by a bus so the last thing I want to do is eat.

I feel exhausted, in pain and drained but he's complaining the house is a mess. I just feel like I'm not doing anything right and I should be so happy because all we've ever wanted is to have a baby but I'm just not.

Sorry for the pity party and long post. I think if I can just vent and get it out I might feel a bit better.

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moreismore · 30/08/2018 13:02

Big hugs to you! You’ve got a lot going on and it sounds like you’re coping as well as you can. Your DP needs a bit of a slap IMO! If you want more info/reassurance on drugs during pregnancy (for you or your DH) then check out the bumps website.
Have you spoken to your midwife about how you’re coping? Make sure DP is going to appointments with you so he is aware how well you’re coping!

Most of all hang in there because you will forget all the bad bits and it will all be worth it Flowers

amylittle88 · 30/08/2018 13:24

Thank you Smile I want to slap him at the moment. It's odd because he is normally so supportive but it's almost like my being pregnant has completely changed his personality. He's coming to everything with me but just doesn't seem to grasp how rubbish I feel.

I haven't spoken to my midwife about how I'm coping I will be seeing her in 2 weeks so was going to hang in there until then. Maybe when we see the midwife she can help him to understand how I'm feeling.

Thank you again, will try to focus on the prize at then end of all of this x

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