about to have sex for the first time in a while... feeling ugly in tears in the bath...

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Me and DP haven't had sex since I got pregnant (7 months ago). I really want to but feel so ugly. He told me how sexy he found my bump earlier which surprised me and I stupidly told him I wanted and was ready to have sex. He has in no way pressured me, and I just want to get over my fear and do it...

Thing is, my nipples have gone a weird shape, I'm covered in fluffy hair, I've put on a bit of weight, I have stretch marks all on my thighs, I'm spotty. I feel disgusting and I'm currently in the bath crying to myself trying to pluck up the courage to be naked in front of him.

I so, so want to. Did anyone else feel like this? Do men really find pregnant women sexy? I feel like a whale...

Men definitely find pregnant women sexy! My DP definitely loves my pregnant body. God knows how, I also feel like a whale!

Turn lights off and pull up the duvet! He's not entitled to look at you if you don't feel comfortable. Even if in the past you might have been more happy to, err, display the goods. God knows I'm still uncomfortable with DH looking at me nude post DC and I used to be a right exhibitionist!

Don't let this get in the way of some fun sexy time once DC is here you will need to be creative about where and when anyway!

Thanks both. He seemed really turned on by the fact I am pregnant but he hasn't shown this before so I stupidly convinced myself he was just making it up to make me feel good. Why you would be attracted to a huge pregnant belly I have no idea!!

He doesn't see all the faults you think you have. He sees the woman he loves, blooming and glowing and sexy. Have a snuggle and see where it leads. Don't pressure yourself to have sex, but perhaps some physical closeness would be nice.

From my limited experience, I don't think men have the same high expectations of women's bodies as some women do of themselves. DH often tells me how much he loves my body (during/after sex rather than randomly) and my body is very far from conventionally attractive. What he means (I think) is that I'm there and I enjoy him being there and we both feel good and that makes my body attractive to him.

Mine loved me pregnant. We did a lot of doggy

So I've missed out on 7 months of sex? Oh man... I'm still in the bath 🙈 and breathe...

Oh I’m sorry you feel like this. If it’s any help, I felt like this too (I’m 5 months) but last week I stopped caring and just let go and had fun! Don’t put pressure on yourself but just remind yourself your body is beautiful no matter what and is doing wonderful things. You deserve to have fun!! X

I loved being pregnant, it briefly hid the fact I was normally a bit lumpy and took the pressure off a bit. I wore loads if tight fitting Midi dresses etc that I can't get away with otherwise.

I suppose what I'm trying to say is, embrace it, he's telling you he still fancies you. Believe him!

Shave your legs, slather yourself in lotion and get under the duvet, lights low, have fun!

You're gorgeous 💕 Get outta that bath and let him make you feel good in whatever way you want - whether that's wild sex or sending him out to get you dessert 😂

I found my wife incredibly sexy when she was pregnant. It was a little bit surreal. Not some strange fetishist obsession with pot bellies, stretch marks and mutating boobs but the realisation that she was making our child for us, creating a new life, something I could never do. It made me realise more than ever how much i loved her, just how awesome she was. I know it sounds cliched but she really did glow. She might not have seen that but i did.
There is nothing makes someone sexier than love itself. Enjoy your pregnancy.

Yep my DH loves sex when I am pregnant. Not the first trimester when I a grey and 🤢🤮 24/7 but the second trimester when I have a rounded belly and fuller boobs. He is actually a bit to enthusiastic and I feel a bit harassed. But actually it’s great for my confidence when I am feeling fat and uncomfortable and no clothes fit. If it’s any consolation I sat in the bath a sobbed at the state of my body yesterday evening. And this evening D H has been pawing at me hopefully. So go with it and enjoy it if you fancy it. If you don’t its fine to say no too.

I'm only just getting a bump and my partner is constantly on about how sexy it is despite me feeling bloated and so unsexy!!! From chatting to him and male friends they genuinely do find it sexy! You're doing an amazing thing and growing a part of both of you in there.

Have the lights off and under the covers if that's what makes you comfortable. Yes sex is different when pregnant, think trial and error for what works for you, him and bump but my god, tmi I know but I have some of the most amazing O's when pregnant!! So go enjoy!!

My partner is the same he is always telling me how sexy I am and we have sex still a few times a week I am 24 weeks pregnant. I asked him one night how he can still find me attractive and sexy at present he said he doesn't see me as any different as before i got pregnant.

Us woman do hold ourselves to an impossible standard. After speaking to him I am now embracing my changing shape.

There is nothing makes someone sexier than love itself. - TooTrue that is so true and hopefully was helpful for OP to hear. Your partner finds you sexy as you and it's about so much more than your body. My advice would be to talk and get all your insecurities out in the open so he can give you reassurance and tread slowly knowing how you are feeling. Without being too voueuristic how did it go?!!