In a rut. Positivity needed to get me through the final trimester

[Cakery]

Ok so I’ve had a bad time recently if anyone’s seen my other posts.
-In short I’m 28 weeks pregnant
-Have a 3 year old to my ex ( civil all ok )
-Current partner walked out 2 weeks ago saying he doesn’t feel same way about me due to our bickering

• Mum commited suicide during my last pregnancy which has really hit my hard now
• visited doctors last week told them I’m struggling and been given antidepressants

So now how do I go forward ? I feel awful to admit I’m not excited for this baby.
How on earth am I going to cope with a 3.5 year old and a new born ? Alone ?
I have no family other than my dad who god bless him he’s an amazing dad- but hes a dad he’s just like my friend as opposed to someone I’d lean on for support

I’m beginning to accept my ex won’t come back- he said he will support me with baby. But I feel so much resentment towards him for how he has done this and leaving me and my son who adored him. Will he come round ?

How often do I have to let him be here with a newborn? When will I feel excited again ?
AND I have to have a c section. No idea how this is all going to work but I’m struggling to see any light at the end of the tunnel

AND I have lost 10lb and completely paranoid the baby is moving more than usual 😭

Have you considered talking to your midwife about feeling emotionally vulnerable given everything you’ve described? I believe they can refer you for counselling which would at least provide you with a place to talk through and deal with the stuff you’re going through. Good luck x

I have been referred to the mental health midwives. I am hoping to hear back this week but wasn’t entirely sure what this will entail x

Wishing you lots of luck in getting the support you need. Be kind to yourself xx

Thankyou :(
I just see no light at the end of this tunnel
I’ve called today to see how long it takes to see the mental health midwives they told me I’m not in the system yet I just want support and feel like I’m getting nowhere

Hey @Cakery I just did a bit of a google search and if you check out page 38 of this document from Mind you’ll find a few charities that offer support to women in your position www.mind.org.uk/media/4852718/understanding-postnatal-depression-2016.pdf

So you don’t need to wait for your local NHS to get you in the system. Fingers crossed for you xx

Hi Cakery

For many reasons I really sympathise with you. The hardest part is feeling alone and worrying about dealing with a newborn and another child, as well as the csec. Do you have any other friends or family to lean on? Please ask for as much help as you need and don't feel bad about it. You can be selfish at this time of your life.

Without going in to details on your post I have some similar problems with my second pregnancy. Allow yourself to be happy about the baby irrespective of the other issues because you will love him or her when they're here I'm sure of it. In the long term the siblings will be so pleased to have each other and this baby may be the making of you (thats what I tell myself!). Xx