Scared of being pressured

[Niomix]

Hey, I'm 18 weeks and 4 days pregnant and this is my first ever pregnancy!

I already feel like my body is not my own due to the fact of my midwife and family (mostly family) making me feel pressured into having to do certain things at a certain time...

Example--- trying to force me to choose everything I want/need for my baby right now, I understand I need to be organised but I feel like pregnancy is a shock as it is and I don't want to be pushed into this crazy world all at once I want to go at my own pace but feel like this is frowned upon.

I just want to enjoy the time that I have with me and my bump and do things as we go. I know I won't let myself rush at the last minute but I don't want to rush it all just now and be overwhelmed with all the things for my baby.

Has anyone got any help or advice to give when it comes to these sort of things or has someone experienced this before?

Im 35 weeks and still dont have everything i need so at 18 weeks you've got plenty of time.

Your not the first pregnant woman to feel like her life is not her own. For some reason people think pregnant women are public property. Like somehow we have lost the ability to think for ourselves. There have been threads on here where complete strangers have told pregnant woman what they can/cannot eat, drink, wear, do.

Im sure your family mean well but a firm thanks for caring buy back off i know what im doing is in order.

Hi @Niomix, sorry to hear people are trying to take over. You absolutely do not have to be thinking about getting all the baby stuff sorted yet, and nobody should be pressuring you. I'm sorry to say it but I suspect that if you don't draw some clear boundaries at this point with your family it will only be worse when the baby arrives. If you're feeling pressured by your midwife you have ever right to request to be assigned to someone else. Family you're stuck with but with healthcare professionals you can have a choice!

Thank you so much for your help... I've been driving myself insane thinking I was alone on this one 😕