How to deal with feeling crap

[letsdothis123]

Hi Everyone.

I'm 14 weeks today (first baby) and have reached peak rubbishness. For the past 4 weeks I've had absolutely no energy, I've felt sicky (without throwing up), had bad heartburn and keep crying.

I understand that these are all quite normal symptoms but I am at the end of my tether. It's from the moment I wake up to the minute I fall asleep. Nothing is helping! Now not only do I feel awful, but I'm getting frustrated and even more tearful. Everything feels like huge effort and I can't be bothered to even get dressed.

I'm lucky enough to have the summer off work, so I've been able to keep myself house bound in PJ's. However, I have to be at work on Tuesday and frankly I have no idea how I'm going to deal with it.

Does anyone have any helpful tips??

Thanks for listening
Xx

You sound like me, although I'm much further on. Including the summer off work (teacher?) So you are not alone in how you feel.

I'd suggest planning some nice things to look forward to - going out with friends, cinema, coffee etc. Having a manicure, baking, whatever you like. It will help you to feel better mentally if you have something small to look forward to.

Eat when you want (and what you want) - don't feel confined to meal times or what other people are doing.

Lastly I remember reading that it get a better in the 2nd trimester, and in hindsight that was true for me. So hang in there for another couple of weeks, enjoy the second trimester. The third is tough..! Good luck and keep smiling x

Ps, go to the doctor and get something for heartburn. I've spent a fortune on Gaviscon and wish I'd have got a prescription early on for it!

Big hugs

Ive been feeling sick (and throwing up) since 6 weeks - im now almost 15 weeks.

Mine has been that bad I have had to be off work for several weeks.

Advice is what works for one might not work for another - but sleep when you need to, eat what you want and when you want (if you fancy chocolate - EAT IT!!!)... make plans...go out - force yourself to go through the door even for a little walk - it does help, trust me.

They say it gets better,....i think someone is lying so far lol!!

I have been similarly rubbish, but find that I actually feel better when I'm at work (although throwing up in the office is not fun!). I think it's something to do with being distracted and not able to feel sorry for myself all the time. Hopefully once you get up and out you will start feeling better!

I really worried about going back to work after the long summer holiday but I've actually found I feel better at work when I'm busy than when I am at home relaxing!x

Sympathy! I’m 9+4 and feel pretty dreadful most of the time at the moment. First pregnancy was nowhere near this bad, though I started feeling better at 13 weeks then.

Very randomly, being cold or having cold feet often makes me feel less sick. I know it sounds a bit weird, but I swear I’ve met other people who it works for so it’s worth a try. It’s a temperature thing, not just about fresh air, though that usually helps too.

Also, you can get something stronger prescribed for heartburn if needed. I had it horribly in my first pregnancy and was miserable. Try the GP though, my midwives were disappointingly unsympathetic and unhelpful about it.

Thanks to everyone for their responses. In true form, I fell asleep after posting the thread and have just woken up. I'm going to give the ideas a go and just hope for the best. Thank you all x

I've been feeling terrible throughout and I'm now 18+1 with my 2nd. I'm also off for summer, and slightly nervous about going back as when I feel rough now I can take it easy and I know once I go back it'll become a little more difficult to do.

I definitely agree with try and get out for a little walk at least every day. I've been forcing myself to do it, even if just for half an hour and it does make me feel a little better just to get some fresh air.

I've done a couple of days at work over the holidays, as well as days out with my step kids etc too and to be honest I also agree that although I'm then exhausted and achy in the evening, I do find the distraction nice of being busy!!

I'm really lucky to have a great midwife, but definitely visit the doctor for medication if you need it. I've been put on anti sickness and it has actually made quite a difference.

Hope you feel better soon!!