Feel so alone :(

[Liltrex]

Apologies if this is in the wrong place but really want some support.

Bit of back story, I'm 23 and the father is 19. We're not together but are housemates (we live in a large shared house.) I found out I was surprisingly pregnant a couple of weeks ago and my first thought was abortion as I didn't think I was in an ideal situation to have a child. I spoke to the dad the day after finding out and after an argument where he didn't even believe I was pregnant and he then made me do another test and finally believed me and started talking about going ahead with the pregnancy. After a few talks I decided I too wanted to go ahead.
I was referred to the EPU, as I've previously had 5 miscarriages, who I seen on Tuesday where I found out I was in fact pregnant with twins and saw the heartbeats. I was then told due to health problems going ahead with a twin pregnancy will probably leave me disabled and have been advised to terminate. I still don't know what I want to do, after seeing the scan I have become very attached and over the last couple of days I'm fairly certain I'm growing myself a cute little bump and it's making it all much harder and the entire situation has had an impact on my mental health. I'm talking to a counsellor on Tuesday.

As well as all of this I've been having issues with the father. I went out with friends on Friday night and regrettably I had two drinks because I've been struggling and just wanted to have a bit of fun and forget about things for a bit. He wasn't happy and has barely spoken to me since. The only times he has spoken to me is to call me a b*tch. He also constantly hides away in his room smoking weed and not showing to me that if I continue with the pregnancy that he will be supportive like he said he would be. He's also been lying to me about money after I leant him some last week. I don't have any family to turn to for support and my friends all have strong opinions on things they have no right to and won't just sit and listen to me. I feel so alone and I've got so many big decisions to make and I'm struggling to cope.

What kind of odds have they given over the disability? Coping with twins whilst disabled with no family support sounds near impossible. Are there any steps that could be taken to reduce the risks? A single pregnancy puts a huge strain on the body, twins I can only imagine.

What is the nature for of your disability and why are they saying that you're pregnancy will leave you disabled?

I sympathise with you not having any family for support, does the father have family who could support you emotionally through your pregnancy. Please think long and hard before terminating, do plenty of research before making a decision.

I have severe hypermobility. I'm already dislocating my hips more doing simple things and I'm only in the first trimester. They can't say for definite if I'll end up disabled but they've said it's highly likely due to previous patients they've seen like me.

As far as I'm aware he doesn't even see his family much.

Will that apply to any pregnancy then? Get some serious medical advice, second opinions, talk to physios etc. By the third trimester it sounds like you'll be wheelchair bound and at high risk of falls before that. What are your chances of recovery after the birth?

I think you need to be asked to referred to a consultant that deals with Hypermobility and knows about the effects of pregnancy. Surely this would only get worse with age?

@liltrex very sorry to hear.

Have a search on Facebook for groups that may have info on your disorder and maybe speak to others who have been pregnant with the same condition.

Like you said, it's not guaranteed so there's hope that there may be some support and info out there to make the pregnancy process easier maybe?