rant on people statin the flamin obvious!

[tiredmumov3]

why oh why do people i hardly even know keep tellin me im gonna have my hands full when number 4 gets here well no sh** hadnt thought of that!
3 times today ive been told and ive only done the school run.it winds me up this baby is v wanted and was planned and to be honest i dont care how hectic things get im not askin them to bankroll/amuse/bring up my kids so why dont they all stop out of it i hardly even know these people ggggrrrrrrrrrrrr

feel better now

cos your life is soooo easy with 3 kids, right?

wow 4 you're going to have your hands full

You become public property when you are pregnant - everyone has an opinion... I drank alcohol free beer at a BBQ and received a great deal of very helpful feedback (I don't think - look at the label, people.

Sorry. hi-jacked your rant there!

yeah i spend all my life relaxin going to spas and having my hair done whilst eating lunch at the country club and maintaining a size 0 figure lol
more like just about get a wee face washed and teeth brushed @ 7am before madness begins for the next 12 hours!but my choice so why do these people get involved ?

im still pregnant of number 1 and had heard a few people saying to me things like 'oh, do you know how much work it is having a baby?'. usually it comes from close people too, and the ones with children already.

i wonder why they are saying that, are they expecting me to cancel the baby in case i didnt think about the work load?

They're just trying to make conversation and can't think of anything more inspiring to say. They're not trying to wind you up, they're not trying to insinutate that the baby wasn't wanted, they're trying to be nice.

Relax ... it's not worth getting wound up about.

no prob gursky know how you feel everyone you meet is a soddin expert.

and since im not going back to work after this one maybe it wont be the same sort of hectic at least!

this drove me mad while waiting to adopt. The number of people who said "it's a lot of work" and looked at me doubtfully.

"Oh right then won't bother, now that you've said that" - despite 3 years of preparation and courses and CRB checks and investigations...

jabuti - it is always the ones with children isn;t it [puzzled emoticon]

Would you rather people ignored you? What would you like them to say? What do you say when someone tells you that they are expecting no.4?
I think like WigWamBam says they are mostly trying to make conversation and acknowledge you. No one is criticising your choice but they might be feeling relief that it's you and not them or they might be feeling a tad envious. They might be acknowledging that it's not an easy thing you're getting yourself into. Lots of people have a soft spot for a pregnant woman plus a bit of nostalgia/sympathy from remembering their own pregnancies. Try not to take offence. If you're not in the mood for comments just smile and kill the conversation at that point.

I would have liked them to say "congratulations"!

Can relate to that jabuti - also pg with no. one and am beginning to get depressed at all the doom mongerers out there - you'd think there wasn't an up side to hear people talk!!

ha!!! precisely kewcumber. im a fan of the theory if you havent got anything nice to say, better not say anything!

i think some people just like to be in the parental role therefore comments like that will spring from their mouth.

congratulations or nothin irecon would be best

I am expecting no4 & although it's early days, you have just reminded me why it's a good idea to keep mum (tee hee) for as long as poss, last time I was 20 wks before I fessed up!?
On the plus side, (again.. tee hee) aren't we the lucky ones?

too right we sure are