Really scared of 2nd miscarriage

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Hi,

I'm really just wanting some reassuring posts that I can come back to when struggling. I had a miscarriage at exactly 6 weeks in June this year and have just found out this weekend that I am again pregnant (4+4) so very early. I'm just so worried that the same is going to happen again 😩 I'm hoping this view will change once I get past 6 weeks where it ended last time but just really don't know how to stop focusing on it as it is making the time go a lot slower!

Xx

I miscarried in may between 4-5 weeks, I'm now 6 weeks, I still worry but I think I will the whole pregnancy! Can you get a reasurance scan? Some pregnancy assessment units offer it after a previous loss

Dp and I lost a baby at 11 weeks in November 2014. We fell pregnant almost straight away and had a healthy baby in October 2015.
I have nothing to ease the worry as such because I was the same. Anxious every second and nervous eveytime I went to the loo.
But what is can say is talk to your midwife. They are great at just listening and sometimes just voicing the fear to someone can help.
And towards the end baby movements reduced so I went to get check a couple of times. Don't worry about being a pest. Better safe than sorry.
Good luck

Thank you. @caitlinn @StressedToTheMaxx I think I'm going too but I don't think there's much they could do to reassure me at this early stage ... and to make the worrying worse I have just gone to the toilet and there was pink blood when I wiped! Going to try not worry about it but easier said than done isn't it 😞

I'm sorry for your losses, OP and other posters. When my DD1 was about 14 months old we started trying for a second child. Over the next year we had 2 miscarriages (both before 12 weeks) and are now 33+3 weeks pregnant. But I can tell you that those first 12 weeks were the most terrifying of all, before the first scan. Then the following 8 weeks until the 2nd scan. Then the following 4 weeks until the 'baby can live outside of the womb after this point', and even now I am always so anxious something is going to go wrong. This is a result of the miscarriages I know, BUT I am pregnant. It has happened, after us nearly giving up after the 2nd miscarriage.

Miscarriages are awful, awful things to happen, but are in reality alot more common than people realise. There's nothing anyone can do to reassure you until you see that scan, and I know it's impossible to stop yourself worrying, but it WILL get better for you, and remember that symptoms do stop around the 7 week mark; it doesn't necessarily mean anything is wrong at that point. x

I’m in the same boat (miscarriage in April). Seeing my GP tomorrow and ObGyn on Monday (not in the UK, already had the appointment booked for other reasons). I’m aware I am being ridiculously paranoid but keep thinking about the sushi I had for lunch and the salami I had as a snack before I found out. I guess I’ll have another 8 months of it ahead of me, well, at least I hope I will.

Thank you to the ladies for posting ‘sucess’ Stories. I know the statistics but it is reassuring to have real stories to go with them.

My first pregnancy ended in a missed miscarriage in April. I was supposed to be 12 weeks but a scan revealed an empty sac. I had to have an ERPC and it was a horrible experience.

In June I discovered I was pregnant again. We were delighted but also terrified of another loss. I am now 11 weeks pregnant with a healthy baby

I've had a couple of early scans, and they've been massively reassuring. Perhaps you could arrange to have one done?

So sorry for your loss and congrats on your pregnancy

Mc in feb, Mc in May, Pregnant again! now 12+3! It's a worry. Especially the first 8 weeks where mc chances are higher. but each passing day is a step closer!
Had one scan done at 10+5 for some heavy bleeding, but babe was perfectly fine. Put my mind at ease a lot, and have now got back into working out! yay!
one Mc is unlucky and shit, but it makes having a successful pregnancy next time that much more likely! good luck :)

take up a new (gentle) hobby? walking, yoga, meditation, learning a new language, baby sign maybe? just to pass the time :)

Thank you everyone it reassures me a lot to hear your stories and that your still all fine. I've had nothing else since and now back to normal discharge so just trying to completely forget about it and keep myself busy until I'm out of the risky weeks!