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Am I being a bit silly or do you think he will appreciate it?

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bluebell82 · 04/06/2007 21:00

I have started writing a day by day pregnancy blog for my husband, I tell him everything anyway- god it sounds like we have no communication skills! But I thought it might be something nice for him to experience what I am going through sort- without the wind and incredible tiredness- and also something that is especially for him. I feel quite guilty that I am experiencing all thgese wonderful and nail biting feelings and all he gets is to hear about them.... or do you think there is anything else I could do- or am I just being incredibly hormonal... I cried last night because I felt selfish- I think I may have answered my own question?!!!

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ktmoomoo · 04/06/2007 21:02

i think writting it all down for him a lovely idea , and you both can sit and chat about them after the birth too xxx

morningpaper · 04/06/2007 21:03

Aww I think that's a good idea

Much easier to read a blog than listen to a hormonal wife

I hope you are feeling better soon

Wilkie · 04/06/2007 21:04

What a lovely idea - really really lovely. Wish I'd thought of it (although mine would have been filled with doom and panick - a good pregnant woman I was not )

hippmummy · 04/06/2007 21:04

Aww bluebell! It sounds like a lovely thing to do for your DH.
My only word of caution is please don't be upset if he is not as excited by it as you expect him to be. Lots of men just don't feel pregnancy and the exciting details the way we do.
I may be completely wrong and he is a wonderfully devoted and involved partner.
I just remember it being a chore to get my DH to even open the pregnancy book I bought.

skibump · 04/06/2007 21:05

I think it's lovely, I wrote a blow-by-blow account of (what I could remember of) ds's birth. Really pleased I did that, so remember to keep it somewhere safe for later

chilledmama · 04/06/2007 21:06

My DH would have committed murder if I tried talking to him that much
We both like bullet points

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bluebell82 · 04/06/2007 21:09

He is slightly more neurotic than me. I have had an ectopic and a miscarriage in the past that hit him really hard and me obviously but I felt responible for upsetting him so much, he never felt me feel like it I thinkit is just natural when someone you love is so upset... but he has read emma diary back to front as well as all my pregnancy books I bought when ttc. He now will not go anywhere near me bedroom wise because of emma diary saying that women who have had mc should not have sex. We are having another early scan next Monday and I wil get the nurse to have a stern word with him!!

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eemie · 04/06/2007 21:15

It's a great idea, but I kept a diary and he never read it.

He didn't get excited about the baby moving or particularly want to feel it.

I had hyperemesis and went through horrendous guilt about what an awful partner I was, and how he must be suffering from the lack of companionship...not long afterwards he told me he doesn't remember it as an unhappy time at all...

He is the most devoted Daddy and supportive husband I could wish for, but there's no getting away from the fact that he was never pregnant. It just was not the same for him nor ever could be - much as you want to share, there's a limit.

Sorry, not trying to be a wet blanket. Do the blog for yourself. It's wonderful to read it later. Dd is 8 now and I still read the old baby diaries to get those amazing feelings back - helps me never to take her for granted.

Psychobabble · 04/06/2007 21:16

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Tinkjon · 04/06/2007 21:41

It will be lovely for the baby to read when s/he is older too!

geekInPigtails · 05/06/2007 15:24

Tinkjon, I think that may depend on how gory (sp?) bluebell intends to be in it!

I think it's a great idea for yourself, as people have said. I'm 18 weeks and have been meaning to write a (paper) diary for weeks now, but not got round to it yet - I'm hoping to catch up while on hols next week.

Anyway, just wanted to say, sounds great SO LONG as you don't get too obsessed with it. This may just be me, but if I wasn't careful, I'd be in danger of getting so 'into' writing the blog that i'd be up all hours doing that RATHER than actually talking to my DH of an evening, which I think rather defeats your original point!

NineUnlikelyTales · 05/06/2007 15:40

I agree with geek, it's a great idea but don't get too obsessed by it.

In the same spirit, I think it would be an excellent idea for your DH to share in the pain of the birth too. Wait until afterwards, then choose your method

Kathyis6incheshigh · 05/06/2007 15:42

what are these 'wonderful nailbiting feelings'?
I just felt shit for 9 months.

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