Constant fear of miscarrying

[Becca124]

Hi all,

Currently 6 weeks pregnant with my first baby and I've never miscarried before, but all I seem to think about is how I shouldn't be getting myself too excited as things 'could go wrong' and I'm constantly googling things.

I have a few pregnancy symptoms but nothing drastic yet, so I might feel better when it feels more real?

I don't know what advise I'm looking for, maybe just someone to tell me to stop being so silly and I'm sure it will be fine :') or maybe some handy statistics that show how unlikely it is? Or shared experience of this feeling?

Thanks :) xx

I can sympathise!

I miscarried my first pregnancy back in April. Went for my 12 week scan only to find an empty sac. I had no pain, bleeding, or signs that anything was wrong. I us to have an ERPC operation and it was a horrible experience both physically and mentally.

I'm now 11 weeks pregnant again and a ball of anxiety! But I had a private early scan on the 14th which showed a healthy baby kicking away

I can totally relate to the anxiety and worry, but chances are everything will be just fine. If you're really worried you can arrange to have a private early scan done. I found mine really reassuring.

Good luck and congratulations!

OP, firstly, congrats! Secondly, I think the anxiety you're experiencing is pretty common. I have had several MCs and this time I was pointed towards this website: www.datayze.com it puts a positive spin on the anxiety you are trying to process. I found it helped me so hope it helps you 😊

Hi. I was the same.
It was only when I held my daughter for the first time in my arms - 3 weeks ago- that I let out a deep sigh of relief that I think I had held in for 9months.
I worried I would miscarry, that she would be born with an awful, life-limiting illness.
I never allowed myself to even imagine her face for fear of how heartbroken I would be when things didn’t go to plan. I used to watch people in the street with their children.. and marvel at how many millions of people get this experience and try and tell myself ‘it happened to them, they carried a healthy baby to term..
It can happen to me!”

It does help when you can see your bump and feel them kicking. I had a very small bump and my placenta was at the front. I didn’t feel a single thing until 27 weeks. But once I did I found that helped me.

To try and help myself I used to remind myself that whatever stress I am under impacts the baby. And that I wanted her to be growing inside a happy and calm mum. I also heard a radio show about post natal depression and they discussed how women who are anxious in pregnancy are more likely to suffer from post natal depression. That also urged me to curb my negative thoughts.

I do sympathise. Someone will hopefully come along and tell you more about the statistics.
My baby is currently lying on my chest blissfully. Of course no one can guarantee the health of your baby but chances are in 34 weeks you will be experiencing the same.

Being pregnant is the first chapter of many. Once the baby is here you can worry about their weight, when they walk, their development, their schools.. the list is endless. It’s a lifetime of potential worry. In the nicest way possible.. you have to find a way to curb your anxiety otherwise it will be a very long road.. I’m trying to do the same!

Good luck. I hope you enjoy you can enjoy your pregnancy.

I had this too. I never believed I would actually get a baby in my the end. I never bonded with my bump. I wouldn't let mothercare fit the car seat in case something went wrong in labour and I wanted to return it.

My son is 22 months old. He's wonderful. But I don't regret my anxiety, I needed it - if kept me feeling safe and neither he nor I have suffered for it.

Take care and a happy boring pregnancy to you

Congratulations 💕 Dont worry it's totally normal to feel anxious xx

I had the same with my pregnancies!
With my first pregnancy which resulted in my now 2 year old little girl I had the constant fear I would lose her as sadly most women in my mum's side lost their first pregnancies for unknown reasons.
Then i had an early loss with my 2nd pregnancy and a missed miscarriage with my 3rd at 12+5 both last year. When i got pregnant a 4th time i was an anxious mess.
I Had a scan at 7 weeks on the nhs for suspected ectopic. A private scan at 10weeks.. and then the usual nhs scans.. 3more private scans and more nhs growth scans to check on Him. The extra scans helped me i think i had about 9 in the end 🙈 if you can afford to sneak a peak every so often that may help you?
Anyway he arrived on the 1st of August and is perfect. Once you become a parent from the second you get pregnant I believe you worry about them forever more, We just need ways to help us deal with it. Xxx