Interview this week? should I tell them?

[MissMoodyMoo]

I'll be 12 weeks pregnant when I go for my interview which is looking likely I'll get the job as I done a placement there as a student nurse and they reached out to me about the job! Should I tell them that I am pregnant or keep quiet until my 12 week scan which will be a week after the interview?

Keep quiet. Otherwise, if you don't get it you'll always wonder why.

Unless of course you are ok with them refusing you the job because you are pregnant.

Obviously they aren't gonna say that. They'll make it about something else. But I wouldn't be able to live with the not knowing if that was really why I didn't get it,

Keep quiet about it! I'm a senior nurse with a fair amount of recruitment experience. 12 weeks is too early to say anyway, I don't think it would be relevant/have any impact, but I've experienced being on an interview panel where a senior manager tried to do everything he could not to recruit a pregnant lady who was clearly the best candidate (don't worry,. she got the job with my persuasion!). Also, whilst its good to be confident, its all down to the interview on the day. Do your research, get to know the Trust values and job spec. Best of luck to you :) xx

Don't say anything but then if you do get the job (fingers crossed) try not to tell them for as long as possible. Chances are once they know that you were hiding it from them they might treat you differently or not pass your probation.

I'm 14 weeks and showing and my contract finishes soon. I'm just going to have to go to temp work because of being too obviously pregnant :(

I had an interview for a permanent job where I currently am temporary. My interview was at 20ish weeks and I didn't tell them. I didn't end up getting the job, but at least now I can be sure it wasn't related to pregnancy.

Don't tell them.

Don't tell them. I have an interview for a promotion next week, I'll be 17 weeks and haven't told them and won't be.

Hi am in the same boat with you. Will be 16 weeks this week and started my new job almost 2 months ago, I have no idea or any clue when to tell them that am expecting and is stressing me out. I really wants the job, but am scared that if I tell them, I may not pass my probation. Pls help me,

It depends, how would you feel about being treated differently for your career there because they felt lied to?

Don’t get me wrong I can completely see why you’d lie but I can also see some people being upset at not being told and therefore having an issue with you after that.

Maamu you need to tell them before they work it out, so depends to some extent on how you are showing. If they work it out they could let you go and it would be hard to claim it was for a reason related to your pg if they didn’t officially “know” about it.

Mynameisjune it’s not a lie, it’s irrelevant to the job application. There’s lots of things I don’t tell my employer as they simply aren’t relevant to the job. As pg should have no bearing on whether she gets the job or not, it is also irrelevant. With a feminist user name like that, you shouldn’t be suggesting otherwise!

@nononannette in reality it shouldn’t have any relevance to whether she can do the job or not. But in the real world there will be employers both male and female who would absolutely be furious that she didn’t tell them and would treat her differently. I know because I’ve seen it with my own eyes and ears. I’m just suggesting that getting the job isn’t the only thing she needs to think about.

At twelve weeks, I wouldn't tell them and I wouldn't expect them to get narky over it because there's a small but significant chance of it not working out - hence lots of people keeping pregnancy secret that early on unless there is a strong reason to disclose.

Later on... I wouldn't say at interview, but I would mention it immediately when offered the job. There's a risk they'd be arsey but I'd just have to ride that out. I've done recruiting in a couple of v different orgs and I'd totally understand why someone would do it that way (and frankly find it a bit awkward if they mentioned it at interview).

In my second pregnancy I was promoted at 7 months - no hiding that at interview! There are lots of horror stories but also lots of employers who do the right thing and see the long-term potential.

Dates-wise you're probably going to be in a perfect position to apologetically claim you didn't want to mention at interview because you hadn't had a scan yet blah blah - you shouldn't have to, but if it makes you feel better and improves likelihood of them being reasonable afterwards.