Struggling with sex in pregnancy

[Yorkymidge]

Hi,
(Sorry if this post is tmi)

Me and my partner used to be extremely sexually active - for fun, not just for baby making. However, since i found out i was pregnant 12 weeks ago, we have only had sex 6 times despite being on holiday twice for 2 weeks each which we would usually go every day then!!

I used to be very into sex and i’m not saying that i don’t want it anymore or that i’m too tired or anything, but it’s just not happening. I also seem to be suffering from vaginal dryness which i was the TOTAL opposite of before (tmi sorry). I thought in pregnancy you were supposed to have an increased labido?

I had very muvh increased libido with 2 of my pregnancies and very much reduced with 1. But each trimester is diffetent and you'll probably change. Get some KY jelly in and don't stress!

So glad you posted this as this is exactly me and OH atm! We were at it every day before, especially more when it was ovulation time. But now its nothing, hes getting very fustrated but i am just too tired/sick and my labido has just gone down to zero. With my first it was completely the opposite. Lets hope it picks up soon!!

The thing is there is no normal. Some women's labidos stay the same, others pick up durijg pregnancy and others don't.

I found that I went off it in the first trimester (also unusual for me) but then felt really up for it in the second trimester. Not sure why but think it's due to hormones and is quite common. Now in the third and finding it physically really difficult to get into a comfy position

Hopefully the feeling comes back then haha!

My partner and I where same and most days had sex sometimes a few times a day. We still have sex now a few times a week but we both are discovering what positions work thanks to my growing belly as it's constantly changing what's comfortable I am 23 weeks pregnant.

They best thing we do is always talk about things together and I you will both work it out in time. I know we have and sure you can too just communicate

I go totally off physical contact of any kind when pregnant. Did it 3 times last pregnancy and not at all so far in this one (16 weeks) and can't imagine doing it at all to be honest.

Unfortunately for us, breastfeeding had the same libido dampening effect!