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Me and DP keep falling out :(

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Gobletoffire · 18/08/2018 12:59

Hi all. Feels like I only post on here whenever I need a moan or have a problem sorry :(

I’m feeling very low because me and my partner keep having arguments, especially over the last couple of weeks. I’m 9+1 weeks and have found that I’m getting increasingly more irritable and hormonal. We generally have a very good relationship and he is my rock, we’ve been together 9 years (since we were both 19) living together for four of those years and got engaged earlier this year.

I feel like he was supportive and couldn’t do enough for me for the first couple of weeks after finding out I was pregnant, but now it almost feels like the novelty has worn off for him and he just expects me to be bubbly and happy but the last 3 weeks I’ve been feeling very rough with the exhaustion and nausea. An example being this morning, there’s something waiting at the post office to be collected which we need for tomorrow, so it had to be collected today, and because I was feeling very sick this morning I asked if he would drive and get it and his response was ‘why would I do that?’. At the moment he is stressed because he’s trying to finish off the last of our home renovations (that’s what he was doing when I asked him to go to the post office) but at the same time I feel like he should be supportive and help me a bit more. We both work full time and I feel like I’m struggling. I’ve explained this to him but when I do I feel like it just ends up in an argument and gets worse.

I know the post office thing isn’t a biggie, but this is just an example of the little things that are niggling away at me and I’m getting fed up with. Not once has he offered to make my tea or anything when getting home from work since being pregnant. It’s something I’ve always done so I think he just expects me to carry on.

I don’t want us to keep arguing, it’s making me feel miserable. Anyone else been in a similar situation and has any advice? X

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HidCat · 18/08/2018 14:29

@Gobletoffire unfortunately it's quite common. I feel for our OHs because they can't really understand what we go through. My husband rarely offers to make me a drink and I do all of the cooking. Even if I don't want to eat of an evening, he asks me to cook for him and DS and he doesn't realise it makes me gag. Keep communicating with him to let him know how you're feeling and hopefully he'll cut you some slack. I think they see it the way we see man flu sometimes lol. Hopefully it'll get better soon and you get some more energy.

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