Third trimester - I'm horrible

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I'm 30 weeks with DC3 and so irritable, but feeling guilty because my family are bearing the brunt. It was my turn to get up with the kids this morning but I have been grumpy and sarcastic the whole time. They're only 4 and 6 and it's not their fault.

DH was trying to be affectionate last night and I totally brushed him off which is not like me at all, he said he understood but he looked crestfallen.

Even the cat is pissing me off I'm sure she's getting under my feet cos she knows I can't see her under my belly.

I'm trying to practice mindfulness and being grateful in the moment but all I can focus on is feeling uncomfortable and tired. It's not going to get any easier over the next few weeks.

I manage to be 'normal' at work, maybe that's taking up all my positive energy. I'm working to 39 weeks so still a long way to go.

Any tips on staying calm and patient in the third trimester?!

Chocolate

Write a card for each of your family, just to explain, say sorry and ask for their patience. They will understand if you are just open about how difficult it is, and be reassured that you love them.

And yes, chocolate, cheese, tea, cake.. whatever works for you.

I'm 30 weeks pregnant too I'm such a bitch! I can't cope with myself! You made me laugh to point of tears saying even the cat is pissing me off! Most I have laughed in ages so thank you. My other half I can not stand him and my 5 year old can't do anything wrong he's the only person I am nice to. Can't cope with the general public either and other car drivers I could take heads off behind the wheel lol! Xx

30 weeks here too and feel so tired and uncomfortable all the time due to SPD, it's getting increasingly difficult not to take it out on everyone around me. I'm feel like I want to book myself into a hotel and just shut myself away for the next few weeks.

My DH stays away 1 night a week with work, and I suggested for his own sake that he should stay away for about 3 weeks. I’m miserable, moaning, and just not fun to be around. He told me not to see so silly....and then asked how many shirts would he need to pack?!

Could your DH take the kids out for a while and give you a break?

My cat has been banished to the garden since it’s the summer weather. Something about being pregnant makes her extra irritating at the moment. Luckily, they’re quite forgiving if you yell at them! DH, not so much.

@Reader1984 I gave them all an apology both retrospective and in advance for the remainder of this pregnancy when we were having lunch, so thanks for that idea, even though I'm still horrible I feel better for apologising.

The kids are staying at my mum's for 2 nights tomorrow (first time ever away from us overnight!) So I should be able to relax a little and DH had promised a takeaway so we don't need to cook or wash up.

He made noises today about having DC4 in a few years. Ha! Only if he grows it next time.

I'm 37+2 and have been the same with my dcs. School holidays are not helping. I can't do days out etc - I'm too fat. Was hoping to manage the cinema with ds on Friday to spend some quality time with him then my mum announced she was taking him instead. In her eyes it was to give me a break. To me.....I was extremely pissed off even though it was a nice gesture and deep down I knew I wouldn't be able to sit through the film.

I'm ok with dh....most of the time. I tend to cry if he pisses me off more than get angry. Which I'm not bothered about tbh. He's part of the reason I'm like this at the end of the day....lol

It's my dcs I'm feeling for, I really wanted to enjoy the summer hols and spend quality time with them before baby comes. Wishful thinking really.

I've also avoided so many friends lately. There's only a couple that I want to see. The rest just irritate me. Feeling my bump and asking if I'm excited, what makes have we chose etc etc....nope not in the mood for that.

Just try remember it's not really you. It's hard work. You can't stop being a wife/mother etc. You have to carry on even though you just want to lock yourself away with chocolate. Also the warm weather has not helped.

All the best op x