Today I found out I had a missed miscarriage

[ShowerTheHorse]

I am heart broken. Our very much wanted baby died about a week ago. We saw the heart beat at 6 weeks. I'm so so upset.

Have to go back for a surgical removal on Monday. It all feels so very surreal

Iv just gone through this. Went to 12 week scan to find baby died at 6 weeks. It passed naturally a couple of days later and was just heartbreaking x

I’m so sorry. Last year I had a missed miscarriage (I found out at 12 weeks). I felt heartbroken and my dreams were shattered, you miss what could have been. It’s very hard.

Im sorry @showerthehorse its awful to go through, im also having a MC we are heartbroken. Please be kind to yourself, take care and talk to somebody if you need to. Big hugs to you xxx

I’m so so sorry for your loss . It truly is one of the most heartbreaking and gut wrenching things to go through, it happened to me twice last year. I didn’t even know missed miscarriages were a thing until it happened to me, it really threw me.

The second time it happened, the consultant advised DP and I to be kind to ourselves and that stuck with us. We allowed one another to grieve in our own ways. It took time to heal before we felt able to try again but I am now nearly 29 weeks with a healthy baby. It will get better eventually, I promise .

Thankyou so sorry to hear of your experiences. I had read up on it but I heard it was rare my partner works away so I was alone at the scan when I found out. He is here now though and being as supportive as he can.

I've had all the sickness, cravings etc it was such a shock. The sonographer asked me if I'd like to see the baby and I said no because I felt I couldn't but I wish I had now.

I'm so sorry @ShowerTheHorse. Nearly a year ago, we went to our 12 week scan and our baby had no heartbeat. I'd had a perfect scan at 8 weeks, and I'd had no miscarriage symptoms, so it was a shock. I also had the surgery. It's so upsetting. I cried nearly every day for 2 months. 6 days short of a year on, I am lucky enough to have my 3.5 week old rainbow baby girl on my lap, but I've been emotional about the anniversary approaching. My advice is to take as much time as you need to grieve, and don't feel pressured into being 'back to normal' too quickly. I promise you that you will feel better, but it does take time. Take care.

I’m so sorry for your loss

You have made the right decision with surgical management. I won’t go into what happened to me during medical management the first time but I really wouldn’t wish that on anyone. The surgery is very swift and straightforward which makes an extremely difficult time that bit easier. I didn’t dare look at the screen either time either.

I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s heartbreaking.
I had two missed miscarriages, both picked up at 11ish weeks. Both times I had a horrible sinking feeling before the scans, although I hoped it was just anxiety.

I do now have a 5 month old DD. There were times when I thought it would never happen, and times when life didn’t feel worth living, but in the end things felt better, and then we had a pregnancy that stayed the distance. I hope you get there too.

The babies I lost were as real to me as my DD. I heard their heartbeats, I saw them wriggle on the screen and I dreamed their futures. I often didn’t feel like I was allowed to grieve properly for them, and I cried for them a lot finally after my DD was born and the reality of their potential hit me. You are allowed to grieve for as long as you need.

I wish you all the best. The surgery isn’t too bad, and IMO the best way to deal with things. My experience was that I was very sensitively taken care of at the hospital. I hope you get through it ok and don’t feel too sad.

So sorry for your loss OP. It sucks. I was where you are last August BH weekend after seeing a heartbeat on an early scan. Exactly same, was still puking/feeling nauseous, has sore boobs etc then bleeding started (v light) at 9+3 and a scan showed baby had probably died day after original scan.

We cried lots and lots for months but got pregnant again end Dec and now 35+4. It will be tough for a while and it will be tough when you get pregnant again not to think same thing will happen but try hang in there. The stats are very on your side. Most women who have a MC go on to have a healthy pregnancy.

Allow yourselves to grieve then try again when you’re ready. It sucks but we understand and lots of support on here xx

So so sorry for your loss OP but wanted to spread a little positivity.

This happened to a close friend of mine late last year. She is now 26 weeks pregnant with a totally healthy baby girl. She got caught just a couple of months after her loss.

Not that it helps ease your pain at the moment but I just wanted to reassure you that your little baby will come along one day!

I had something very similar in April. I was supposed to be 12 weeks but a scan revealed an empty sac. I had to have an ERPC.

I'm now 11 weeks pregnant with a healthy baby (have had a couple of early scans). So sorry, please be kind to yourself

I am so sorry for your loss. Look after yourself OP.

Practical advice - buy tena lady and rest. Take as much time as you want off work. I had 3 weeks off after my mmc and I don’t think it was long enough tbh.