Disappointing reaction to baby’s sex

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So we just found out we are having our second baby girl 😍❤️ Husband and me both absolutely over the moon. When we told family, the reaction was a bit disappointing - it’s made me feel really flat about it now. Comments such as:

“oh I see... well at least that’ll be cheaper”
“Are you OK with that?”
“Well as long as it’s healthy I suppose...”
“You’d have made such a rubbish royal a few hundred years ago ha ha ha”
“Is your husband OK with that?”

Husband says just laugh it off - I’m not sure why it’s go to me but find it so rude to react to news of my unborn daughter like that. Anyone experienced this?

"Is your husband ok with that?"

Wtf?! That's awful.
What did they expect you to say?
"No, he's annoyed. I will terminate this one and go again to please him." FFS
I'd have really snapped at that comment.

I'm on my third boy and people keep asking if I wanted a girl. Luckily no other comments beyond that!

It’s definitely rude. My cousin has 4 girls, he hates the comments with each of ‘trying for a boy?’ ‘Fingers crossed for a boy!’ He loves his girls and is very happy, he doesn’t want to swap any of them. I think people really don’t think before they say these things.

I think when the news about a baby’s sex is tied up with seeing the actual baby, people tend to respond much more positively. There’s not much to say really when someone tells you before it’s born - though obviously you should say “how lovely!” rather than what you got!

Congratulations! Two little girls will be fab!

Congratulations on your little girl!

Family are a pain and can always come out with stupid things to say.

X

I think it's lovely that they will be sisters. This isn't the dark ages, boy or girl can do whatever or be whoever they want.

Wow! Just ignore them. It's amazing that you're having a lovely baby girl. I have a boy already and expecting again and would be thrilled if I have another baby boy (or a baby girl of course but you get my point).

Congratulations on your baby girl - don't let anyone ruin your excitement xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Blimey you know some rude people!

When we had our second daughter DH rang his Nan from the delivery suite to tell her and she said “oh that’s a shame” and then when his parents came in his dad said “don’t worry maybe number three will be a boy so Mr. ReggieKray gets a son” (!!!!!!!!!) DH said he always wanted two girls thanks, so that was perfect and not to ever dare say anything so crass again, especially not in our daughters earshot.

When we had our DD2 a patient of my husband's (he's a GP) said, "oh, and you probably wanted a doctor..."

... I, too, am a GP, AT THE SAME PRACTICE.

We both had a hearty laugh but really, I despair.

Having 2 girls is so ace though. Congrats!

I have two boys. Never craved for either gender and was delighted to be having another boy.... just as I'd have been delighted to have had a girl.

I do find some people odd

Only comment l had was from my Nan who said "that's a shame...."

And from my fertility Consultant who said "Didn't we do well! Shall we go for a girl next time?"..... l laughed at that and said no thanks!

Congratulations!

People are so perplexing

Yep. I got 'oh well, never mind' from my father . However I was not surprised because my family seem to live in the fifties. Or maybe in India. Girls are not appreciated in our family at any age except to serve their menfolk, whereas men are obviously demi-Gods.

I got a lot of this when I was pregnant with DD.
‘Are you having a boy?’
‘No’
‘maybe next time!!’
I wanted a girl so I was over the moon. I already had two amazing nieces so I really wanted my own little girl. They’re cousins but treat each other like sisters.

Congratulations OP!

I'm pregnant with my 4th boy. Not many people no as i can't ne bothered with there reactions.

I'm fine with it. 2 little girls will be lovely. Congratulations. X

My situation was a little different. My man was devastated we were having a girl. We found out at the scan and he went really quiet. After we got out he said that wasn't what he wanted and didn't know what to do now!! I was furious with him!!
(Bit of background info...He has no kids, I have 2 teenagers from a previous relationship. My eldest, son (19) is lovely, never been in trouble. My daughter (17) has been a nightmare, and almost ripped the family apart with years of lies misbehaving. My man is terrified having a daughter means we have to go through everything again).
I suppose writing it out I can see why he was terrified and upset lol. Anyway, baby girl came a month early and she is his best friend, 8 wks old and a proper daddy's girl ☺ He doesn't mind having a little girl now.
My parents also favour boys, don't even hide that fact (probably contributed to the chip on my daughter's shoulder). I think he was worried about that too. I have also had rotten comments from them cause I was having a girl, such as 'aw you are in for a tough time', and 'oh well never mind', followed by 'your nephew is the best blah blah blah...'
Wow! Think I went on a rant there haha! Who cares what anyone else says or thinks! The minute my folks play favourites with my daughter and her male cousin they stop seeing my daughter. Simples!! 😌

I loved growing up with a sister probably more than she did cos I was a pita so I think 2 little girls is lovely. I personally have 4, 2 of each - when I initially had 1 of each people used to say that I had "the perfectly family" and I "was done now". Cheeky buggers I didn't have 2 more out of spite

It's extremely rude. Often people who make these comments have a narrow, stereotypical conception of what boys/girls are like, whereas of course each child is an individual.

I had 2 sons, and at the time got the same stupid reaction from some people. Take no notice, but enjoy your pregnancy and BOTH of your girls.

Thanks for all the supportive replies everyone - I certainly will enjoy both of my girls 😁😁😁😁😁😁

I've posted a similar thread. I have 3 boys. They're marvellous. I got SO many rude comments, honestly I can't count. The 3rd is now 1 and they still keep coming (albeit less frequently!).

Just ignore the haters. And congrats on girl no2! X

DH and I are massive supporters of our local football team - go to home and away games every weekend (and sometimes midweek). So when we told everyone we were expecting a little boy, the only comments we got was "oh you will be so happy about that getting to take him to the football" as if we couldn't take a little girl! It's not like I'm female and go to the football at all

I find that during pregnancy all forms of politeness or general manners go out of the window when people talk to you 😂

Yes OP and it got to me too every time. I have 4 boys. In the end I was saying "It's a boy, yes I'm ok with that and no were not trying for a girl." My parents went through the same as I only have sister's and no brothers. It's hard but try and ignore them xx

When I told my mother I was expecting a boy her response was "Well never mind, it's always 50/50 and perhaps you'll make a nice one"