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Pregnant and can't stand partner! Normal

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CobaltRose · 16/08/2018 17:40

Hi everyone,

I'm currently 10+3 with my first child and right now couldn't find my partner any more irritating! He hasn't actually done anything wrong, but right now I feel like I can't stand to be around him and look forward to when he goes to work, so I have a few hours to myself!

My sex drive has also completely tanked. The last time we had sex was when this pregnancy was conceived and right now the thought of sex makes me cringe. Sometimes I look at DP and wonder how on earth I found him attractive enough to conceive a child with him Grin I feel like such a cow because DP hasn't done anything wrong and has had the patience of a saint, but I honestly can't stand to be around him right now. I've also noticed his smell a lot more, and it's not a pleasant one! He doesn't smell unpleasant normally and has good personal hygiene, so it's almost certainly pesky hormones and me feeling rotten anyway. I can't stand for him to even touch my back or sit too close to me!

All of this only started once I found out I was pregnant. I actually do like DP quite a bit normally Grin

Normal? Grin

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CobaltRose · 16/08/2018 18:10

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Gobletoffire · 16/08/2018 18:17

I’ve just had an argument with my DH purely because he has come home, I already felt very irritable, and it’s like I just need someone to take it out on. Feel sorry for him actually, I think it’s just our hormones going wild and we naturally take it out on those closest to us!
I too am completely off sex at the moment as well.

Phillipa12 · 16/08/2018 18:34

Completely normal, i hated my dh in the first trimester with all 4 of my pregnancies, everything he did irritated me and that included him breathing, my heart would sink when i heard his car come down the drive! It does go though. 😁

WooYa · 16/08/2018 18:40

So normal Grin tbh... DS is nearly 5months and I still feel that way Hmm DH has learnt to ignore me

lolacola13 · 16/08/2018 19:08

Totally normal I'm 5wk 5 days and feeling similar sex drive in the gutter v snappy and just want to be left alone .

OutPinked · 16/08/2018 19:26

Very normal. There’s lots and lots of things about DP that annoy me enormously when pregnant, usually when I’m also tired and/or hungry Grin. They don’t normally bother me. He’s had to put up with me telling him to wash and brush his teeth a lot too!

CarlyJayne1987 · 16/08/2018 20:04

Same.

Mines now left though and moved out...so peace and quiet in the house for me ;)

Beautifulblue · 16/08/2018 21:42

Yes. Normal. I hated DP so much when I was pregnant I was convinced we'd split up when our DD was born. We had a few of the worst arguments we'd ever had & I just thought he was a complete twat! Sounds mean but he literally repulsed me, the thought of even hugging him let alone having sex Envy. DD was born, & everything was fine. It was me... it was hormones.. & DP deserved a bloody medal! & he doesn't repulse me anymore 😂

Sandstormbrewing · 16/08/2018 23:48

Normal for me! It's got worse with each pregnancy too. I can't stand him touching me. I can't imagine ever having sex with him again! It does make me sad though as he's a lovely caring and handsome man and hasn't done anything to cause me to feel this way! Damn hormones.

Defnotunique · 17/08/2018 08:52

Sorry I can't relate, but i did find the replies funny, it's weird how our hormones play tricks on us!
All these poor husbands/partners all wondering what the hell they've done 😂

somersetsoul · 17/08/2018 09:10

32 weeks and am wondering if hormones count as a murder excuse... We only moved in together 2 months ago and already I want to move out. Hoping that changes once baby is here. I can't remember being this bad with my other two!

Babdoc · 17/08/2018 09:18

I find this really surprising. I had a frantic libido when pregnant - we were actually dtd when my waters broke and I went into labour a week early!
DD1 used to get annoyed with all the disturbance while she was in utero, and would rap imperiously on my uterine wall when things got vigorous, much to my amusement!

StarfishSandwich · 17/08/2018 09:23

I definitely went off my partner in the first half of my pregnancy. I couldn’t stand his smell and he irritated me. I had hyperemesis and any kind of physical intimacy was completely off the cards.

It does get better though!! I’m 38 weeks and logistically sex is difficult now but at least I actually want to be physically intimate with him now!

pollysproggle · 17/08/2018 09:38

Perfectly normal OP but not a nice experience for either of you.

The reason DP refuses to have another child is because I'm so horrible when I'm pregnant.
I detested him for no rational reason, he made my skin crawl and would encourage him to go out so I didn't need to be with him!

Pleased to report it doesn't last forever, 2 years on and we're very happy and getting married next week.

Hormones can do crazy things to you!

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