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First baby...so many questions!

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Bettyhop · 15/08/2018 15:21

Hi everyone
Yesterday we found out we are going to have a baby, and we are absolutely over the moon (and terrified in equal measures).
First question...is it normal to be absolutely ravenous? All afternoon my tummy has been grumbling and I've just had to have some weetabix.
Second question...when did you tell close family and friends that you were expecting? I'm struggling to keep our happy news a secret. Plus I work with dp's mum and we are on nights together tonight.
Third question...when did you start to buy things for the pregnancy/baby? I'm envisioning myself popping out of my clothes in a couple of weeks if this hunger keeps up!
Fourth question...am I right to think I can continue to exercise at a similar level to pre pregancy? I love yoga, body combat, body pump, swimming, running and weight lifting.
As you can probably tell my head has not stopped spinning since we found out our happy news yesterday. Any help you can give to a first time mama is much appreciatedFlowers

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Bettyhop · 15/08/2018 15:23

Also...is it normal to be this nervous to tell your parents? I'm the eldest of 4, this will be first grandbaby. My mum always says she is too young to be a grandma and has made a few comments in the past that she doesn't think it's the right time for us. We are in our mid 20's, own our own home, both have good well paid jobs etc...but I think she would have liked to have seen us married (which we are planning for 2020) xxx

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myotherbagisgucci · 15/08/2018 15:31
  1. I always found I was hungry, although I never suffered from morning sickness. If I had, food would of probably been the last thing on my mind.
  1. I told my mum, dad, brother and in laws straight away. Everyone else, after the 12 week scan.
  1. After about 24/25 weeks.
  1. Yes, I would just go at your own rate. If your a little more tired, then maybe take it a bit easier.
  1. I was always nervous but also excited about telling our family. My mum also used to say the same thing and she loves being a Nanna now!

Good luck OP and congratulations!! Xx

piraterach · 15/08/2018 15:31

Firstly, congratulations! Now onto your questions:

  1. Defo normal to be ravenous/nauseous ALL THE TIME! I ate soooo much food in my preganancy even when feeling sick.
  2. It's up to you when you tell family, most people wait until 12 weeks as you're over the most problematic stage but if you think you would tell them if the worst happened anyway then why not have family support right from the start (we told at 10 weeks).
  3. I bought maternity jeans at 12 weeks as I couldn't fit in mine anymore, you may need them before or not at all. I also bought a little baby set at the same time but left all big purchases until after 20 weeks.
  4. I was sooo nervous about telling my dad as I didn't know what he'd say but most parents are over the moon at the prospect of grand babies.
Good luck with your pregnancy Smile
BertieBotts · 15/08/2018 15:32

Normal to be hungry. Eat to the hunger as it's your body getting what it needs, don't worry about putting weight on - but do try to eat "real" food rather than junk (unless it's all you can keep down).

Totally up to you when to tell. We told our families before telling other people.

Yes you can and should continue with exercise you've done pre pregnancy although I think impact sports might not be advised. If you have a coach/trainer you could ask them for advice. Weight lifting you might be advised to stop or modify particularly later on as you can damage your ligaments very easily.

Havetothink · 15/08/2018 15:48

Your mum might turn green at first but she'll probably enjoy being a grandparent once she gets used to the idea ☺

Pinkvoid · 15/08/2018 16:25

Congratulations Flowers. It’s very normal to feel anxious and apprehensive, it’s a frightening life altering experience!

It’s completely normal to feel ravenous, welcome to pregnancy Grin.

Pinkvoid · 15/08/2018 16:27

Sorry, posted too soon.

I would tell anyone you wouldn’t mind knowing if something went wrong now and leave the rest until after the first scan (usually at 12 weeks).

I wouldn’t personally buy anything until after that scan either. I have sadly been in the position of discovering a missed miscarriage at the 12 week scan twice.

Check about all exercise with your GP. Running should be fine as you’re used to it but unsure about weight lifting etc.

ingenvillvetavardukoptdintroja · 15/08/2018 16:31

You're advised to avoid certain exercise in the early weeks of pregnancy. Check this out

boombamboom · 15/08/2018 16:37

I was starving all the time. I'd eat my dinner in the evening and then about an hour later ate two big bowls of cereal. All I wanted was leave cereal and must have gone through hundreds of boxes during pregnancy. Grin Also I constantly snacked during the day at work. I was literally always eating something. BlushBecame a bit of a running joke with my colleagues.

Didn't tell anyone, not even my Mum, until after the twelve week scan. I wanted to tell my Mum straight away as we are really close but it took us a year to conceive and I wanted to make sure everything was okay first, hence why I waited for the twelve week scan.

Started buying baby stuff after the twelve week scan too.

Can't advise on the exercise as that's not my area. Grin

I was nervous about telling my family too but they were thrilled. Don't be nervous. As long as your happy then that's all that matters!

Congratulations and Good Luck!!

WooYa · 15/08/2018 16:50

Congratulations Smile eat ALL of the food! I was really nervous about telling DM - I don't know why, I moved out years ago, am married and a 'grown up' but I still felt like a child Hmm I would maybe talk to your midwife and trainer about the fitness... there's no reason for you to stop but (depending on the activities) you might need to slow down a bit. I bought a blanket after my 12 week s an and I needed clothes around 16 weeks.
Good luck x

Bettyhop · 15/08/2018 16:59

Thanks so much everyone for all of your repliesFlowers believe it or not I'm a midwife!! So different being on the other side. Been for a gentle swim and had plenty of snacks. Who knew something so tiny could make you feel this wayGrinCake xxx

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firsttimebabybirther · 15/08/2018 17:13

  1. I had HG until 24 weeks so didn't have an appetite but after that it came back and made up for all the lack of eating , I probably ate enough to feed my entire family for one a week , for breakfast Grin
  1. Mum / in laws and best friend straight away so I was probably only about 5/6 weeks and everyone else about 3 weeks later when the sickness took over and people were seriously concerned.
  1. For pregnancy probably about 30 weeks (lived in leggings until then) baby probably not seriously until about 28 ish weeks , I didn't get my pram until 38 weeks ( stupid - don't do this )
  1. I'd say as long as you felt comfortable maybe take a few extra rest days and up your water intake if you'll be sweating a lot ect, make sure to be warming up / cooling down and your bound to feel it a lot more. (Pure guess , not an expert)

My mum was really shocked / unhappy at first and now my DS is spoiled rotten and loved SO much , I'm regularly reminded that she doesn't remember loving any of her children this much Grin charming!

Congratulations!! Thanks

le42 · 15/08/2018 18:04

Hey, congrats! I'm on my first pregnancy too, 17 weeks :)

Re yoga > I can offer tips on that, I practice 5/6 times a week and my mum is a yoga teacher. I'd subtly tell your teachers at the start of class as you do need to make variations and be aware of it.

  • Don't go fully down in chaturanga, stay high and take a gentle back bend.
  • Nothing on your stomach
  • No more twists, you can do an open twist (so twisting away from the dominant leg) but I'd just skip them really.
  • No deep back bends like wheel (but you can do camel)
  • Inversions > people differ on opinion, your balance might be a bit iffy so be careful.

If in doubt, don't do it, yoga is great but your body has changed a lot and you do need to be careful.

Pregnancy yoga is nice, it's recommended only start after 12 weeks... you might find this a little too gentle if you're used to being very fit, but it's nice to meet other mums... just don't think of it as "exercise" per se.

I felt so poorly the first three months that even though I desperately wanted to exercise I was just exhausted and I couldn't fit it in around work. I'm back now and feeling amazing because of it!

Hope that helps!
Laura

le42 · 15/08/2018 18:05

Oh and drink tuns of water!! Way more than you normally would.

BlueBug45 · 15/08/2018 21:10
  1. Morning sickness covered by PPs but you may not be aware that towards the end of the first trimester around the time the placenta is forming you may feel bloody exhausted even if you have good iron levels. This means you will come in from work eat and go to sleep. Make sure your husband is aware so you don't get hassle from not cooking and doing house work.
  1. Covered apart from telling your employer. When you tell your employer depend on the job you so. If you are in a role where members of the public may hit you e.g. teacher, police, paramedic , it involves heavy lifting, factory work or exposure to hazardous chemicals then you need to tell them now. They need to carry out a risk assessment then either alter your duties to avoid the hazards if possible or put you on paid leave if not possible. If you are in an office based job then you can tell them when you like though if you end up being sick, having to go to the toilet lots, eat randomly and you are being watched then you may want to tell them earlier to avoid them discriminating against you.
  1. Most maternity clothing is only available online and so you have to factor in delivery times. Also be aware you may have one part of your body changing shape long before another part and maternity clothes are too big in the beginning so you may be able to size up normal clothes. In my case I found sizing up didn't work for sports leggings so just wore maternity sports leggings from 14 weeks even though they were also too big. However at 36 weeks I'm still wearing the same size knickers and jogging bottoms.

I've borrowed lots of baby stuff. Babies grow quickly and so there is no point buying loads of new stuff. I will pass it back to the owners or pass it on if they don't want it, with any additional stuff I've brought. I've also been passed unused stuff e.g. different types of baby bottles. Both my OH and I went out to look at travel systems at around 22 weeks both separately and together as we both will be taking parental leave. We needed to find one that suited our basic needs and the right height for both of us. We brought one at about 26 weeks as it was on sale and has a long guarantee. Most people I know end up using a different buggy instead or as an addition from around 8 months, and some use slings as well from the beginning.

One thing I should say is don't rush to do a nursery for a baby, design it for a toddler/small child. It is recommended that babies sleep in the same room as their parents for 6 months due to SIDS. Plus in the 20+ years I've noticed family, friends', neighbours and acquaintances having children most of the children, particularly first borns, don't sleep in their own rooms until they are nearly 2 at the earliest.

  1. You may not be able to exercise in the second half of the first trimester due to tiredness. The most important thing is listen to your body.

After that simply tell your instructors you are pregnant. Some exercise in particular body combat, HITT and some forms of circuits aren't recommended for pregnant women due to the jumping and hormones relaxing ligaments so increasing injury risk.

Body pump is fine to do through out pregnancy as long as you modify exercises and are prepared to lower weights. I push myself so ended up giving up at 20 weeks.

Running, cycling and spinning are fine to do if you are use to doing it and as long as you are able - just remember you are in maintenance mode. I couldn't cycle on the road after 16 weeks as it was uncomfortable and I couldn't be bothered to alter my bikes. There as one of my friends', who had a smaller bump, was cycling at 27 weeks. I also went to all my normal spin classes taking it slighly easy until the gym changed the timetable when I was 34 weeks, there as a couple of other pregnant women who weren't use to exercising didn't realise some of the classes I was doing were the harder ones the gym does so immediately dropped out.

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