TTC post-miscarriage, clearblue OPK hell!

[Heebyjeeby99]

Hi ladies,

Sadly I had a miscarriage at 7+5 weeks on 28 July. It was my first pregnancy and I fell after 2 cycles of trying. I was so happy when I found out I was pregnant, so this hit me pretty hard.

Bleeding started on 23 July and I passed everything on Saturday 28 July. For around another week I was still testing positive and got my negative pregnancy test on 6 August. After this, I started to feel better and we have decided to get straight back into ttc.

Last time I used clearblue ovulation kits that give you high and peak readings and these worked well for me. The first month I got two high readings and two peak readings, which seems pretty average. The month I fell pregnant I got 4 high and 2 peak.

This month I started testing the day of my negative pregnancy test and had 4 days of negative OPK readings. Then I got a flashy smiley. I was happy and started to bd with OH every other day. SIX days later...I am still getting flashy faces. Me and OH actually had an argument last night as he is tired out but I don't want to miss ovulation. Has anyone else had this? I expect the miscarriage might be mucking up my hormones, but 6 days seems excessive and I just don't think me and OH can keep up this pace for much longer. He seems to think I've gone baby crazy, but these tests are stressing me out so much as I keep expecting peak to come but it doesn't.

Ready to give it up this month to save my sanity and relationship!

Give up this month or at least give up for a day or two. For the sake of one month it's not worth fighting. This happened to me after a MC and whilst you hear about loads of people falling pregnant on first go after MC for me it took me 3 "cycles" before I was normal again. I would get positive OPKs but they would come on random days, day 12 or 18 or whatever and my cycles went from 24 days to 32 days during those 3 months. My march to April cycle was my first regular cycle of 28 days I ovulated day 14 and got pregnant and am now 19 weeks. Even though I was ovulating, I wasn't getting pregnant. My MC pregnancy took one cycle so I think I fall pretty easily. For me, my body clearly needed time. It will happen again and the very very vast majority of people who have MCs go on to have successful pregnancies the next time. I have learnt that the Internet and forums etc don't always give this appearance though!

Thanks @SophieStripe. You're probably right. A good friend miscarried a week before me, then went straight to a static smiley 2 weeks after miscarriage (no flashys at all), bd'd once and got pregnant. So I guess I thought if it could happen for her, it might for me too. But this is stressing me out big time.

I kind of want to carry on testing now just to see if I ever get that peak reading, but I should probably chill out on trying with OH. We are off on holiday in 2 days so hopefully that should take my mind off it for a bit!

Yes just got enjoy your holiday! Also just remember that an opk cannot confirm ovulation, only temping can do that. The opk just picks up the hormone surge that tells ovary to release egg. You can have hormone without releasing egg. I think it just happens at different times for people... Your body will be ready when it's ready, but I know how frustrating it is! If someone could have told me it will take 4 months to get pregnant again I could have coped, but you don't know what the timescales are going to be until it happens! Good luck