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ManchesterMummy2b · 03/06/2007 11:30

Just curious really.

We don't know what we're having - even if we'd have wanted to know, baby had it's legs crossed at the 20 week scan, almost as if in protest, and the sonographer said she couldn't tell either!

Okay, so here's my slight issue. My MIL is OBSSESSED, and I mean completely and utterly obssessed with finding out what it is, and she's intimating that we DO know what it is but we're not telling her to make her life difficult. She's very hurt that we're not telling her, even though we don't know ourselves! It's our first baby, much wanted, and we're so looking forward to it just being here, blue or pink!

I'm getting a bit upset by it all as we really don't care what it is so long as she/he arrives safely and is healthy. She's worried about what colour we're going to paint the nursery, and how awkward it will be for people who want to but us things. Every single time we see her it's the main topic of conversation, and there's never anything about just hoping it's okay when it comes!

Has anyone encountered stupidity like this? Or am I jsut being over-sensitive? I'm at the point where I don't want to see her, and am also at the point where I'm considering telling her that actually, we're expecting a kitten...

Sorry for the ramble, it's getting me down...

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lissie · 03/06/2007 11:33

lol, its tough isnt it. i think that our parents (not having the choice themselves) expect us to be falling over ourselves to find out the sex. i must admit we found out with ds but that was our choice.

you should tell her youre having a kitten, that'd shut her up!

Nbg · 03/06/2007 11:38

I guess deep down shes just majorly excited lol.
But it must be very annoying for you!

Just tell her that if people want to buy things they can buy neutral coloured clothes for newborn although I can guarntee you will end up with far too many.
Or they can wait until baby arrives and then pick.

Orrrrr
you could give her a list of things you want

My MIL has an obsession with girls. She was so excited whene found out with dd but much to her dismay, dd is a real tomboy and loves trains and cars. Not girly at all.
We've noticed that she doesnt really give ds any attention and she has made it perfectly clear that she wants this baby to be a girl so she can buy dolls and girly things for

ManchesterMummy2b · 03/06/2007 11:39

I think you've hit the nail on the head lissie. My parents asked if we would find out, but only because they think it's amazing how scans have changed. But then they are very good at respecting my and mine and haven't mentioned it since. It just seems like my MIL doesn't care that it's healthy, and that's what's upsetting me. It's even upsetting DH - he normally doesn't get upset easily!

Even if I said it was a kitten, I can guarantee she'd want to know if she needed to buy a blue or pink bowl. (our cat, who is a boy, has a pink litter tray so ha!)

Thanks!

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ManchesterMummy2b · 03/06/2007 11:44

She's already been buying things in neutral, and is complaining about that too!

No point giving her a list of what we'd like. She asked for that when we got married, and totally ignored it. Gosh I must sound so ungrateful - I'm really not.

She is excited, unbelievably so, to the point where she ignores DH (her son!) when we walk into a room together.

I'm only 22 weeks. Plenty of time to up sticks and leave the country.

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Nbg · 03/06/2007 11:46

Oh god she sounds like hell!

Well you could say, give us £200 and we will go and have a private 4d scan and find out then for you

ManchesterMummy2b · 03/06/2007 11:50

Hee hee Nbg - I like it!

Your MIL sounds equally odd - what is it with some people????

MIL thinks our bump is a boy (as do I). Am now wanting it to be a girl

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Nbg · 03/06/2007 11:53

MIL's can be scary creatures.

Mine once said about my dd that she wanted to keep her!

Needless to say, we didnt see her for a while!

ManchesterMummy2b · 03/06/2007 11:55

Crumbs!

Glad it's not just me then with the freaky MIL. My DH really likes my mum, I think sometimes he wishes his was more like mine!

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bumbly · 03/06/2007 14:45

well no you are not alone!!

i totally understand!!!

check out my thread..you really should read it!!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=49&threadid=317971&stamp=070602101823

wish I had your MIL as she sounds tame compared to mine!

so that should cheer you up - it could be worse - I have had severe problems with my MIL for years and years - ever since I met her son and she also is tough and mean with her son too

keep positive and i think perhaps what you could also do is say that the hospital wont give sex out of baby - which is true in my county anyway...

thinking of you!!

bumbly · 03/06/2007 14:46

ps and my partner too gets on better with my mom than his own mother (my MIL)

!!

bumbly · 03/06/2007 14:48

ps just paint the nursery a colour that will go well with eithere sex - nice neutral colour which you can deocate as appropriate when the time comes and the sex is revealed

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