PLEASE HELP :(

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Hey gals, sorry for the novel but please read it cuz I need your help. so I’m in a tricky situation. Over a year ago i gave birth to my first baby. Baby’s now 16months. I got on the jab a year ago & haven’t had a period since. About 2 weeks ago I took a test because I had been having a few symptoms. It was positive & iv tested a few times since. Including yesterday. Also positive but all of them are so faint it’s almost impossible to see. Yesterday’s one came up before the 10min mark & a little darker than the others but still faint as hell!! My partner has made it very clear he isn’t keen on another just yet (don’t blame him, me either tbh.. we’re both very young!) I had in visioned so much for my next pregnancy & it just sucks that no one will be excited. I want my partner to be overwhelmed with joy like I had planned but I know he’s just going to be disappointed. I’m scared he’s going to think I did something that got me pregnant. I don’t want to argue with him. He’s my bestest friend & I love him so much. I just wish it was all different. In a few years, like we planned. Im going to be 20 with 2 kids, no career, no plan & no job. And omg I just don’t even know what to do. Any ladies gotten pregnant on the jab? Any 20 year olds with 2 kids? Was anyone else worried to tell partner but turned out ok? ADVICE, SUPPORT, ANYTHING. - please no negative comments.. have tried different brands & have doc appointment next Tuesday

Congratulations on your pregnancy, I’m sorry I’ve not had the jab so I can’t explain that side of things, but I knew someone in a similar position. Although her and her partner were doubtful about having a child, by the time the child came their first daughter had grown up a bit and the couple were absolutely overjoyed. I think that when you first tell him your pregnant he may be upset and overreact, but I would encourage to make the pregnancy process as exciting as possible for the both of you! Also if your baby is 16 months old now, then by the time you have your second, your first will be over 2 years and will start to be more independent. As for the work scenario, don’t worry as long as you can support your children you don’t need a job right now, after this one is born you can go back into work and be successful just like many young mums before you.
I wish you a healthy and happy pregnancy xx

Congratulations! As crl200 said, as long as you can support your family then it doesn’t matter that you are young. You will have time for a career when your children are a little older.

Good luck

It can be quite a shock finding yourself unexpectedly pregnant. Take some time to come to terms with it and try not to put too much pressure on yourself.

I have found myself in that position twice. The first time was with our 2nd and we had been planning on tying within a couple of months anyway, so we just got on with it really. I won't lie, I felt an immense amount of loss that we wouldn't get to "try" or plan or any of that stuff. I also wasn't quite ready for actually being pregnant and giving up so many things. I was also disappointed when I had to be induced and didn't get the spontaneous labour I had hoped for. She was to be my last and I felt bereft that none of it had gone to plan. She's 2 now and I wonder what I was so upset about. I love the bones of her. She's hilarious and sweet and kind and special. Then I fell pregnant on contraception (after no apparent failure) with my 3rd. We decided to go ahead despite only ever planning 2 children. I am literally terrified. Terrified of the unknown, having 3 children and of the cost, but I have to trust that it will be ok because that's the decision we made. It can be ok for you too. It might not be what you planned but this can be your plan and you can make it work.

My friend was a very young mum with no career or prospects. Now she's 34 with 4 children in secondary school and she has a very respected job earning £50k+. It can be done OP, you just have to take that leap of faith and put your mind to it.