I'm pregnant but I can't cope with another child

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Itsnotfriday · 06/08/2018 15:54

I've been completely stupid and careless, there's no denying that. I've only been with DP for 4 months, still a new relationship. I have 3 DC, my youngest is 8 and has ASD, a developmental delay and I'm fairly confident she has anxiety too. I couldn't see her coping with this at all. I don't even know how DP would react to this, or my two teenage DS.

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physicskate · 06/08/2018 16:01

You have options. You are allowed to make an appointment to discuss them impartially. Give Marie stopes a call to get some guidance.

Singlenotsingle · 06/08/2018 16:08

You'd better speak to dp and see how he feels. Is he prepared to support you? Can you afford another DC? Do you have family to support you? Maybe your Dd would like a baby in the house. All sorts of things to think about.

Frosty6611 · 06/08/2018 16:10

Give BPAS a call. I had my termination with them and they were great and it was all over with very quickly. they offer counselling beforehand too so you can talk it over and work out if a termination is the best option for you or not.

KateGrey · 06/08/2018 16:10

You do have options. Have you spoken to your dp? If this were me I’d probably consider not going forward with the pregnancy. I have two with asd and my middle dc was 3 when youngest was born and did not take well to the new baby. How do you feel about it?

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Itsnotfriday · 06/08/2018 16:23

I haven't spoken to DP about it yet but I'm worried he won't understand my reasons for considering an abortion

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KateGrey · 06/08/2018 17:12

What’s your gut feel? Have you and your dp talked about having kids before?

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Itsnotfriday · 06/08/2018 18:31

Well it's not that i exactly want an abortion but i know it's probably best for my family's state. We have talked about whether we want more kids before, he said he wasn't against the idea, i explained why I probably wouldn't have more

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Itsnotfriday · 06/08/2018 18:33

Sake not state

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physicskate · 06/08/2018 18:46

I don't think anyone ever 'wants' an abortion, but it's a legitimate option if another child would be detrimental to your current family.

It's not a decision (either way) to make lightly but you need to be 100% sure with any option - hence the suggestions of talking it through with a counsellor who will not pressure you one way or the other...

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