Feeling fat and miserable - anyone else?

[HannahB1993]

I feel so horrendous at the moment. I wanted to lose weight before I fell pregnant but I didn’t expect to fall pregnant so quickly I didn’t have time to lose anything at all!

I’ve been a size 14 for a while and wanted to get back to a size 10, obviously that’s not happening when pregnant 😂

The last time I weighed myself a couple off weeks ago I have put on 5 pounds, considering it’s twins I don’t think it’s too bad.

All I keep doing is comparing myself to slim girls! Girls who aren’t even pregnant - I know how ridiculous! I just feel awful. My arm fat is getting bigger, My cellulite is worse on my legs, my face is looking fat and my double chin is coming back, obviously my stomach is growing. I just feel like a big fat whale. My husband says he finds me so much more beautiful now, I really appreciate him saying that but because I don’t believe it I can’t take any notice! I just feel disgusting. I suppose this heat doesn’t help.

I have a plan on how to lose the weight after the babies arrive which makes me feel a bit better but I don’t want to constantly have my mind think of that. I want to enjoy this as I know so many people would be desperate to be in my shoes - I was desperate for this too!

I’ve had a past of anxiety and depression and can feel myself slowly falling back and I really don’t want to feel like this. I’m scared of how I might get after the babies if I continue to focus so much on my weight.

Has anyone felt like this before? If so, what did you do to feel better? I just want to feel good about myself! I feel so lucky and so blessed but I’m not even going to lie, sometimes I feel pissed off at how shit I feel about myself.

Absolutely, and i feel really silly for feeling this way when there are people who would love to be pregnant and I am just miserable. My whole body is cellulite and I have stretch marks everywhere. My face and arms are fat. It’s harder in the summer I think because your skin is meant to be out!!
I think I find it harder because I have had substantial weight loss in the past and therefore am finding it hard to watch myself become bigger in pregnancy. I found myself quite weepy about it this week. I haven’t weighed myself because that would be a recipe for disaster!

So basically I understand how you feel but I have no solutions!

I understand OP. Think of it this way, it’s best to get pregnant and then lose the weight rather than loose weight, put it back on in pregnancy, and have to lose it all again!

Yep! I’d just lost some, I felt great, and now I’ve just blown up again!

Yup! 37 weeks and feeling enormous.
I fell pregnant in the middle of December so I had a good 10lbs excess Xmas weight from all the parties, chocolates everywhere and just general winter grazing so I had almost a stone over my normal weight to start with before any baby gain

I’ve put quite a bit on and I’ve actually got a lovely round bump (it’s huge) and I’m quite pleased with that but my arms, legs and face are just massive. I don’t even recognise my face as it’s just so podgy. The swelling and heat are not helping.

The only way I’ve been able to get through the panic is to focus on the lovely things about being pregnant, aside from the baby of course, and to remember that at the end of it I can lose weight and do lots of activities with baby to help get back to my normal self.
I also try to do things which keep me feeling human, like lots of relaxing baths with uplifting oils, pregnancy massages and a bit of fake tan.
I don’t think many women feel pregnancy is their most attractive time, you’re not alone.
Sorry no real advice but just so you know we’re all in this together and to the outside world you will look blooming, glowing and lovely regardless of how you feel inside!

I gained four stone with DC1 and felt horrendous. I never had the chance to lose the weight before getting pregnant again as I had three DC in the space of 2.5 years so by the end, I was about six stone overweight . It took me a year of hard work and dedication to get it all off but I did and have mostly kept it off for years.

Now I’m pregnant again, I haven’t dared weigh myself for about 6/7 weeks but when I last did, I had gained a stone since the booking appointment . I don’t just see it around the bump but also on my arms and legs and it’s stressing me out. DP thinks I’m being ridiculous and should just enjoy pregnancy and eat what I want but it won’t be him that has to work hard losing the weight after!