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Please help, am I having a miscarriage?

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Pitterpatter01 · 04/08/2018 09:21

My LMP was 30th June, and my cycles normally last between 30-35 days. I had a BFP on CD31.
As I had severe pre eclampsia with my first DS 6 years ago I’m classed as a high risk pregnancy, so I’m already in the system and had blood pressure checked (all ok).
Have nausea, sore boobs and extreme bloating.
Yesterday evening (would have been CD35) I went to the loo and when I wiped there was pink blood, not just a spot but not really heavy. After a lot of phone calls to various places I was told to go to out of hours. The Dr took blood pressure and felt tummy and said that she could see anything alarming, but unfortunately can’t scan until 6 weeks so it’s a case of waiting it out.
It eased off a little before bed, and still only when I wiped and nothing on a pad (was told to wear one so that I could see if getting worse).
First wee this morning and the blood was slightly more and red. I feel like I’m on my period - lots of menstrual type pain. Also had a bit of diarrhoea (sorry if TMI).
Feel even more sick today than what I have been.
I’m totally in limbo, feel absolutely devastated as I’ve convinced myself I have lost the baby. I know it’s only a tiny seed but to me it’s still my baby.
Has anyone experienced this but still had a successful pregnancy regardless? Praying for a positive outcome, not sure how I will cope if I lose it

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SadTrombone · 04/08/2018 09:32

I think "spotting" is quite common in the 1st trimester OP - this thread may help: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage/613599-bleeding-at-6-weeks-is-there-any-possibility-this-isn

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Pitterpatter01 · 04/08/2018 10:59

Thank you @SadTrombone
It just looks and feels like my period, although slightly lighter. But really hard bloated tummy. I feel so sad

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MynameisJune · 04/08/2018 11:02

I’m so sorry, the wait is horrendous. My MC last year at 5 weeks was a 4 day light period, barely any blood at all.

On Monday I would go the to GP and ask them to take beta bloods on Monday and Wednesday. This is how my GP confirmed my MC when the EPU refused to scan as too early.

I really hope it’s just unexplained spotting.

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Pitterpatter01 · 04/08/2018 11:46

@MynameisJune pregnancy test now negative and a lot of pain in left side. 111 said I need to go to A&E within the hour as it may be an ectopic pregnancy. I’m devastated, scared and in pain. I don’t know how I’m going to get through this

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DelphiniumBlue · 04/08/2018 11:51

If the advice is to go to A & E, then go!

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Pitterpatter01 · 04/08/2018 11:54

I’m on the way there now. My heart is broken. Just dropping my 6 year old off at a friends. Trying to not cry too much in the car in front of him but all I want to do is scream

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SadTrombone · 04/08/2018 12:01

Ah sweetheart. Thinking of you, hope you're seen quickly.

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Pitterpatter01 · 04/08/2018 12:32

@SadTrombone thank you. I feel like I’m being silly as I was only 5 weeks, but I’m truly heartbroken. There are two other pregnancies in the family who have both just had scans. I know it’s selfish but I’m really going to struggle to cope with this whilst seeing their bumps grow and babies born. I don’t know how I’m supposed to deal with these emotions. Still waiting to be seen

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PurpleFlower1983 · 04/08/2018 13:16

I’m so sorry this is happening to you.

jpclarke · 04/08/2018 13:44

I hope you get positive news, I have had an early loss and a mmc so I can totally understand your feelings. I have read about people who do get some blood in early pregnancy so fingers crossed that's what is happening for you.

OurMiracle1106 · 04/08/2018 13:49

Hope everything is ok.

K0013 · 04/08/2018 13:54

Thinking about you and keeping everything crossed for a positive outcome. Take care of yourself xx

MynameisJune · 04/08/2018 14:19

@pitterpatter01 I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It’s okay to feel devastated, 5 weeks or 35 weeks it doesn’t matter you still start to plan your whole life with this new little addition.

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Pitterpatter01 · 04/08/2018 16:33

Thank you ladies for your support. My baby has gone. Luckily it wasn’t ectopic and as it was only early days I won’t need any procedures. I have been given strong painkillers because the pain was intense. They said that it will just be a really heavy period with some clots and tissue.
I’m heartbroken and know it’s going to be difficult seeing the two other pregnant family members. I’m happy for them and praying there’s go well, just makes it a bit harder for me to come to terms with my loss.
We wanted this baby so badly. I’ve gone from being absolutely ecstatic to completely devastated overnight. Don’t really know what to do with myself x

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GirlfriendInAKorma · 04/08/2018 17:00

So sorry for your loss

I had a MC at 6 weeks after TTC for a year - I was devastated. BUT ... keep the faith, as we managed to conceive again and had a very easy pregnancy and now have my awesome little DD2 :)

Sending you lots of luck and positivity for the future x

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Pitterpatter01 · 04/08/2018 17:37

@GirlfriendInAKorma thank you, trying to think positive and accept that it just wasn’t meant to be. Did it take you a while to conceive again?

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Honeybee79 · 04/08/2018 17:37

So sorry that you are going through this. Be as kind to yourself as you can

GirlfriendInAKorma · 04/08/2018 18:53

Well actually, we had a self-imposed break from TTC for a few months (my head was all over the place from TTC for ages and then having the MC) ...but when we started trying again, I got pregnant within a couple of months which was amazing for us as we're not great at making babies normally!

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Pitterpatter01 · 04/08/2018 19:02

@GirlfriendInAKorma that’s lovely. I want to wait until I have my first period then maybe try again x

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jpclarke · 04/08/2018 20:03

When I had an early miscarriage, I got pregnant the month after. Coq10 is a good supplement to take.

ClaireFraser · 04/08/2018 20:14

When I had a miscarriage last year, the thing I found most comfort was actually the A&E doctor telling me that, although it was absolutely devastating and I was heartbroken about it, I shouldn't look on it as my body 'going wrong' but it doing what a healthy fertility system should do, there was something wrong with the foetus and so my body was 're-setting' itself to go again. I can remember just sobbing my heart out to them that I'd let my baby down and didn't it know how much we wanted it and that I felt like my body wasn't working properly.

I appreciate it's not the case for everyone, and at first I thought it was a bit of a strange thing for her to say, but when I stopped to think about it it made sense and offered me a lot of comfort.

Eight weeks later and I was pregnant again with DC2. You have my deepest deepest sympathies as it's such a heartbreaking horrible all-consuming thing to go through. I hope that I haven't upset you with my story, but that it might offer you a little comfort and a slightly different perspective. so sorry again OP

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Pitterpatter01 · 04/08/2018 20:35

@ClaireFraser thank you for taking the time to reply and sorry that you went through this too. My best friend did say to me that as heartbreaking as it is, everything happens for a reason and that the reason could be that there was something wrong and that’s why my body did what it did. It does make sense. I passed bits of tissue and clots a while ago, still feel very tender but not as much pain. Going to have a long soak in the bath in a minute.
Thank you, your words have offered some comfort. I just feel so vulnerable, hurt, and sad xx

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Pitterpatter01 · 04/08/2018 20:36

@jpclarke I haven’t heard of that, I will read up on it thank you x

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