Hyperemesis - feel like giving up

[GraciesGirl]

Hi all, sorry am new to the forum! Ok so quick back story I’m current 11+2 and I was diagnosed with HG at 7+2 after being admitted to hospital with a saline drip and injection. I have tried cyclizine and am now on Stemetil which was working but I feel like it’s all of a sudden stopped. My GP is very much of the opinion just suck it up and get on with it but I literally can’t even get dressed in the morning. I go through phases with food that seem to work and then repulse me the next day.
I hate letting people down and I’m supposed to be working full time but have to keep phoning in sick because I just can’t cope which is putting pressure on my relationship with financial troubles. Also am worried my boss is going to get fed up of me letting her down too!
I hate to admit I’m just having thoughts that maybe this was a mistake, maybe I’m not meant to be a Mum, that I can’t do this every day 😫 then I feel guilty because some women cannot get pregnant and I’m being ungrateful! I’m sorry for the moan but I just don’t know what to do

I know this isn't very helpful, but this too shall pass. It won't be forever. And you can get through it to have your precious LO.

You need a different gp to listen to you. Maybe get midwife on board too? There is a thread for hg support. I'm afraid I don't have any other advice.

Oh you poor thing. See a different GP. Don't be fobbed off. Pregnancy can be shit, but it isn't forever. Take care of yourself. Are you not entitled to sick pay at work? xx

See a different GO. I changed surgeries and it made a wealth of difference. Actual understanding and empathy. HG is debilitating but people have little understanding. Check this website https://www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk/healthcare-professionals/hg-friendly/ they can advise if there is a GP near you who is "HG" friendly. Also it has a wealth if info on there.

Get signed off if need be. Work can wait and I know it is awful but you just need to put yourself first. With my first one I was signed off week 6-18 and I couldn't function.

Sometimes getting a good anti acid from your GP can help with the nausea too. I felt like I couldn't go on either but it will pass.

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Yes to seeing a different GP. Ask them to refer you to hospital consultant clinic if they’re not comfortable going beyond Stemetil. There are other drugs you can try that might well work better for you. Stemetil did nothing for me, ondansetron helped a ton.

Poor you. I had pretty bad sickness. But when I spoke to my midwife about it she asked if I was taking iron tablets. I was, my GP had prescribed them on the grounds I was a vegetarian. She suggested I stop taking them as they can make the sickness worse. It helped a lot.
I had just started in a new job when I discovered I was pregnant and almost immediately went on either sick leave or change of duties due to other health conditions. I had loads of pregnancy related appointments to attend during working hours and although it felt awkward I was allowed time off for all of them. I had to let my manager know/show any appointment letters/texts. But it's the law. They have to give you the time off. There is lots of information online regarding this. Like a PP said, it's for a short length of time, relatively speaking, so don't worry about work being difficult. (Unless you are on some sort of tricky contract that avoids these rules, not sure if that is even possible?).
Good luck. Btw, I thought I couldn't have children, was getting on with life with no yearning to be a mum etc. 43 years old, thinking it was early menopause. But she's 9 now and it's been brilliant!! (You know, exhausting, chaotic, funny, tearful at times, and completely different to life before). But really really brilliant. No reason to suspect you are not cut out for it m'dear.

Gotta go now. She's waiting to beat me at a game of Rummikub! X

Definitely a different GP. Your GP needs to acknowledge how hard hyperemesis is and work with you to get you through it - as a side note I also had acupuncture from mine which helped to a degree at least as much as medication.Mine wrote to my employer and after being signed off I had very reduced hours put in place for a large remainder of my pregnancy.See if you can be put under consultant care as well. My consultant said he would get me through the pregnancy even it he had to keep me bed bound in hospital (not needed )and there was something about knowing he would look after me come what may that helped.A good consultant will write to your GP. Hyperemesis is truly awful, but just take an hour at a time and remind yourself how well you are doing with such a debilitating illness. You are in the peak and what you're feeling is completely justified but you will get through it and it will be worth it. It's so hard to see the end in the depths of it all. You are doing so well, really.

Also agree onadestron helps and you need a consultant to prescribe. Stemetil does very little.You need to be referred to a consultant who understands hyperemesis.

Thank you all so much for your messages, genuinely started to cry (blooming hormones haha!) I immediately called my GP and refused to get off the phone until she prescribed me a different medication. Family member collecting prescription as we speak, and it’s zofran so I’m praying this works!
Work have been brilliant but am still on probation and only a small company so I just worry because I’m sure running a business with a pregnant girl working for you who forgets what day of the week it is and can’t keep down a jelly baby can’t be great!