Single mummies

[Poppylizzyrose]

Hi! Been gone awhile, just to update on situation briefly. I’m 21 weeks pregnant with a little girl, can feel movements now, late at night and some mornings, or before I’m about to eat sometimes. On good terms with baby Rens Dad, but never plan or want to be together. Didn’t know if there’s a single pregnant Mum thread already, if not please share your experiences and we can give each other support. Xx

34+6 with second baby.. now single as found out my partner was having an affair for 18months with a “friend” of mine!

Another single mum-to-be here. Been single from about 3 months after discovering husband’s years of affairs. I’m now 33 weeks, expecting a little girl

there is a topic lone parents if you want to join

Charxo, my previous partner had an affair, I’ve posted details of it before so will spare the details but I understand what you’re feeling. :( he’s got his ex before me pregnant she’s due any day and he’s with one of my friends. I’m very thankful he isn’t the father but it’s still quite tough living through that experience. Especially with all the hormones raging through you.

Green bean, that’s terrible! :( congratulations on your little girl though. They are a light for us all.

I'm 34+2 and will be a single mum too.

I wondered if anyone had been to birthing classes? I went to one nct class but found it really hard by myself surrounded by happy and excited couples! Not sure I have the strength to get through several more to be honest!

Hi...I'm 19 wks...single since I was 9 weeks.
Ex became nasty and I had to end it.
I will be doing this on my own with help from mum.

@Greenbean11 I just finished my NCT classes. I went to the first one on my own and can understand how you felt. Have you got a friend who could go with you? My friend couldn't get childcare for the first session but for the other four she came with me. At the end of the last session one of the other mums to be said that it looked more fun doing it with a friend as we took it seriously but had a laugh at the same time. The person running the sessions should be used to adapting them to suit the people there though and mine was really good at doing it. I would recommend going again as you might begin to feel more comfortable once you get to know everyone there better.

Not single yet, but on the way there. Can't see it lasting much longer. Mentally preparing to do it on my own.

The Dad of mine wants to come to the birth classes with me...he keeps asking me when they are. Don’t know how I feel about it, all the other couples will be in love and I’m so embarrassed. He’ll say she’s going to be a footballer or something 🙄 and show up in a tracksuit. I should but all that aside though and maybe let him come. My situation is so odd...he’d be together even for ren. We weren’t In love, only briefly dated, I ended it to be with someone else. So I’m not sure what’s best to do. :/

Mine is adimant on being at the birth yet I have a feeling he will bring her along with him! Do I bloody want that while I’m in labour?! Bloody men!!

Best piece of advice I’ve been given - put yourself first 100%
Only do what is comfortable for you. When it comes to the birth, the only people that need to be there are you and the midwife. And if you choose anyone else, then that’s your choice. My STBXH mentioned that he would be at the hospital - no way! I need to focus on myself and baby so that’s what I intend to do.
How do they manage to make it all about themselves constantly?! Even the birth becomes about THEM!

@niclw - thank you. Yes, my friend and birth partner is coming to a few with me but she can’t make all of them. I just found it so much harder than I imagined but I guess I just have to get on with it!
When is everyone due?

Rens Dad and me previously fell out when he insisted he will be present at the birth to see his daughter being born. When I said I’d Ben in so much pain and I just want my Mum and best friend whose my only friend whose a Mum. He said he’d barge down the door, punch staff.. biggest problem I have with him is how stupid he is. Luckily he’s dropped it now.

Due 5 th December x

@poppylizzyrose - glad he’s dropped it now. You do not need that stress on top of everything!

I'm due 11th September so only a few weeks to go.

I know greenbean, it would of been extra stress. I do appreciate the love he has for ren already. I trust him and his family will be there for her, I am comforted if anything happens to me he will 100 percent step up and bring her up. Which not everyone can boast, so I am lucky.

7th September for me

Im 32+6 waiting for my baby girl. I split with my ex because of is reaction to the pregnancy "me or the baby" "id rather be dead, my Life is over" type reaction.

Once the news settled in he was demanding to be present at the birth i was about 6 weeks gone then. Similar to another post in here, threats of punching down doors and stuff.

Fast forwards to now and i haven't had one phone call or text since being 12 weeks 👍🏼

I have had my mum and my family as my rock and i have managed to actually get over him and get excited to bring baby up as there has been times i have felt linely, scared, embarrassed and worried ❤️

Yeah Jon did the punch staff and knock door down threats haha. In fairness he took the news weirdly well, never Hinted abortion, has been to every scan with his mum too. We’re in contact most days so I am lucky. Ya never know tho! It could all go south. I’m very happy there’s no feelings between us, we’re acting close to pals almost sometimes haha.