Not directly pregnancy related but kind of

[CathyandHeathcliff]

I don’t know what to do, my friend of 15 years just wont speak to me, she was upset a few weeks ago because I couldn’t go to her baby shower (I live a 5 hour drive away) and now she won’t even reply to me, it’s been almost a month later. I don’t really know what to do. I’ve tried apologising, I’ve tried being understanding, I’ve tried it all. She won’t answer her phone/reply to my messages at all.

What would you do?

Some people become so self absorbed about occasions such as these.. sounds mean but if she is treating you like that perhaps you should let the friendship dissolve. Did you send a gift?

On the other hand are you certian her pregnancy is still going well? Something awful may of happened which might explain the silence but if you've seen social media updates and things appear to be going okay then i would say she's in a pissy.

Is she very pregnant? It's probably the hormones. Send her a card and tell her you're sorry you couldn't attend the shower etc etc and that when she feels ready you will be there for her. In a few months time she will hopefully get in touch. It's not your fault.

@Getitrightthistime I wanted to send a gift but since she moved, I don’t have her new address. So I messaged asking for it and got mo response.
She doesn’t really post on social media but the last time I saw an update, all was well.

I’m 28+4 weeks pregnant myself.

When was the last time you heard any updates?

I want to change my first answer having given it some thought I'd be inclined to message another friend or a family memeber and ask for an update before you jump the gun and assume she is still angry over the shower as it does seem a little extreme. Given the fact you're pregnant also makes this even harder... something awful may well of happened and she might be finding you particularly hard to face. I would just double check.

Regardless of the outcome I would do what the pp said and send a card.

Obviously you will need to try and find her address. What was the address of the shower she must of given that to you? Usually those are at home.

@Getitrightthistime It was at her mum and dad’s. I’ve managed to find her address written down so I’ve sent her the gift I was originally going to send. I don’t think there is anything wrong.

Well all you can really do in that case is wait and see I am very sorry you've been put in this situation though its never nice to fall out with friends to me you sound like a good friend and it's obviously bothered you enough to post on here which shows you really do care about your friendship.. I really hope it works out for you and best of luck with your pregnancy as well op!

She's a bumpzilla. It'll be the hormones. You'll just have to ride it out.