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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Confused at 4 weeks

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C0nfusedc0mxx83xx · 01/08/2018 12:21

Hi everyone. Last week I found out I was pregnant. My partner believed he couldn't have children and seemed happy about the news. He doesn't have any children and has spent most of his life single, free and enjoying to party. I was settled at 17 and have had 2 children who are both teens now.

I met my new partner 16 months ago and have lived with him for 10 months. My children from my previous relationship live with their dad although I have regular contact.

I am 35 and currently working two jobs and just about to start my second year of uni. Life is a juggling act and my relationship with my partner is a Roller-coaster. When we are good we are amazing, but in the time we've been together he has had inappropriate contact with three people and we argue a lot. Normally after he has had a night of alcohol and drugs, and when I approach him about what I believe are addictions I'm bombarded with abuse. Don't get me wrong I can be hard work at times also.

I'm so confused on what I should do, do I keep baby hope that a miracle happens and we can bring our child into the living home it deserves. Reality is I'll more than likely end up a single parent and have to give up my dreams of finishing uni. Or do I have an abortion, which would more than likely mean I'd lose my relationship with a man that I do love immensely disbite the flaws and end up staying back with my mum and dad.

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Nicbre88 · 01/08/2018 12:50

Hi All,
Myself and my husband are trying for a baby and have been trying for 7 months now. My periods are like clockwork but I am now 6 days late and have taken 4 pregnancy tests (2 Clear Blue and 2 first response) over the space of 3 days and all saying negative. I am feeling very bloated today and feel like I am pregnant but not sure if I am just being crazy because we really want to have a baby. Has anyone ever been in this situation? x

WhatAnAbsolutePenis · 01/08/2018 12:53

How come the kids live with their dad?

Because of the boyfriend?

QueenAravisOfArchenland · 01/08/2018 12:57

Honestly confused, this relationship sounds like a serious non-starter long term whether you have the baby or not. In a very short space of time he's had inappropriate relationships, you think he's an addict, he verbally abuses you when challenged. Any one of those things is a red flag, all together they scream "run". Things don't get better with a man like that, they get worse.

No, you are not going to end up with a happy stable little family. Make your own choice about the pregnancy whether you want the baby even if you're raising it alone or whether you'd rather make a clean break, but get ready to bin this man off.

C0nfusedc0mxx83xx · 01/08/2018 13:09

Deep down I feel this is the case

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