When does it stop being so scary?

[hailseitan]

I had a bleed and a trip to a&e last weekend and ever since then, I just cannot relax. Before that happened I was having a great time and really enjoying my pregnancy... but it's all so different now.

I just can't stop worrying!!

I'm going to the toilet every 5 minutes to check myself and when I go out, I'm scared to walk for very long in case it triggers anything. I wanted to start a pregnancy aqua fitness class, but I'm too afraid. I'm scared to do my normal housework, too afraid to sneeze, and I'm definitely terrified of having sex with my husband. I promised him once I got to 12 weeks I would (I was being super cautious), but now that's out the window!

Am I being crazy? I feel like I am, but I can't stop myself. Has anyone else been like this?

I had bleeding after 25 weeks in my last pregnancy and it was fine! Weirdly, I didn’t find it that stressful at the time but I’ve had it at just over 4 weeks in this one and am finding it way worse. It’s awful, isn’t it?

I’m trying to let myself excited, even so early on as figure it’s beyond my control. It’d be awful anyway if something went wrong, I don’t think being positive now would make it worse.

Try and enjoy it, let yourself be happy. That’s possibly the opposite advice you’d expect, but it’s been helping me.

Yeah it's the worst :( I like to have control of situations, but this is so out of my hands. I feel useless!

Well I'm definitely happy, just with an undercurrent of serious anxiety haha. I will try and be a bit more zen if I can.

Thanks for your reply :)

@Heilseitan Hiya, how many weeks are you? Like you, I was constantly checking for blood every five minutes from day one and generally feeling anxious all the time, but, I can now feel the baby moving which has made so much difference. I'm about 19 weeks and feel it daily now, I'm still worried but nowhere near as bad as I was before I could feel the movements.

Hello, I too had a bleed and a trip to a and e for scans, one at 6 weeks and one at 14 weeks. All was fine.
It is a scary time but it does get easier. For me I found that as my bump grew I got better with the anxiety. I think by 24 weeks I was pretty much ok.

You don't have to do anything you don't want to either. So if sex is off the cards for the full 9 months, so be it! Your husband will just have to deal with it :)

I was lucky enough not to experience any bleeding () but still checked every time I went to the toilet. I also worried about movements regularly, cramps/aches and if I'd done something like lift something (after I'd done t). I think pregnancy is wonderful but a time full of anxiety about the little life you're growing.

It's perfectly fine not to have sex if you don't want to; if you're in the mood, there are other things you can do that don't involve full sex but again there's no pressure, your DH should respect your body and choices and you might find he's a bit cautious too.

What you need is as much rest as you feel like, nice relaxing baths and whatever food you fancy, be kind to yourself, you're doing an amazing job.

I've had 2 miscarriages and bleed in this pregnancy very heavily at 7 weeks, I didn't relax until I could feel her moving regularly. still check when I go to the loo though