Am I too detached from the baby? PND risk?

[fourplusonemore]

I'm 34 weeks pregnant and feel such an intense love and bond with my baby already. It feels just the way it did with my other children years ago who I have a fantastic bond with and am extremely close to.

However, it's not really sinking in that the baby is coming in just over a month. Everything is bought, the nursery is decorated, my hospital bag is packed and I constantly sing, talk to and rub my bump but simultaneously I feel a little detached from it all like it's not real. It's not really sunk in that the baby will be here in next to no time.

I'm scared of PND and wondering if this is a precursor at all or if it's normal? Should I seek medical advice from a peri natal health team or have other women gone through this too? I don't feel at all depressed or detached from the baby. I care about my pregnancy, the movements, love each scan and medical check up to check in with the baby and I know I can't wait to be a mum again but it all feels kind of not real yet.

My last two babies didn't feel real until they were in my arms! I had/have no problem with bonding or anything like that. I wouldn't worry; it sounds like you're bonded already.

Incidentally, lots of midwives/health visitors have asked me if I feel like I've bonded with baby so it's obviously something that would be picked up quickly if it were to be the case.

I think that is normal. I was excited with my first and even imagined how it would be seeing him when born etc. They handed him to me, I looked at him in disbelief and all I could think was, I am so tired and in so much pain! I had to sort of "pretend" to be happy. It did take me around 10 weeks to fully bond with him but it wasn't pnd. This time, I am excited but I know it will prob be a shock to the system. I don't think you can always visualise it or fully believe it until it has happened. I think the whole process is a bit surreal!

You sound more enthusiastic than I ever did, I never sang to or rubbed my bump and still have no nursery and DC 2 is 8 months old Nothing there would indicate a pnd worry imo.

I'm due anyday and still hadn't sunk in that I'm going to have an amazing, brand new little person to care for 24/7. Of course I absolutely adore the baby already, but it still feels ages away that he's going to arrive!!

I was worrying about PND so I looked into local support groups... I still may get PND but I feel like at least I know where to go for support and that there is help out there :-)