Too early to buy things??

[ShanAmanda]

When did people start buying things? So I'm fairly early on, but I've seen a couple of bargains... am I tempting fate if I start buying things?

MagicalCreatures same due date as me! Hadn’t really considered the mad Christmas rush thing. It’s my third though so not much to buy, I just need to get everything out of the loft and check what condition it’s in.

I didn’t buy anything until second trimester. I don’t think there’s any such thing as tempting fate, that’s just superstitious none sense. I did however want to be as sure as I could be that the pregnancy was going to progress normally. Good luck and all the best

I'm 30 weeks and haven't bought anything yet! Going to hopefully start this weekend though... pram shopping time!!

I would wait as you never know what others will be able to lend/give you. Some of my colleagues are giving me cots/cribs/carriers etc so we wanted to see exactly what they'd unearth in their lofts before we got stuff.

I didn’t buy anything until almost 30 weeks and even then it was mostly because there was a sale on the pram and I didn’t think it was sensible to wait any longer in case it took an age to arrive. Clothes etc I bought very little of as we didn’t know whether we were having a boy or a girl until she arrived. Plus the whole world bought her clothes so we waited to buy larger sizes etc.

Congratulations

My daughter is 26 so 27 years ago it was all a bit different, basically you told people when you found out as scans were a bit hit and miss about when you had them etc so it was quite different in that regard

I bought my baby ( didn't ask about the sex and it was not very readily offered either) a cuddly toy alligator some tiny socks and a mobile for the crib when I found out as it helped it be a bit more real, I ended up living in a hostel for 80% of my pregnancy so I had very little storage but I loved having those little bits it made me feel better about everything.
I don't believe in "tempting fate" etc as I'm quite grounded person. Go with your gut feeling

Most of all enjoy pregnancy if you can and be kind to yourself xxx

To be fair I do 90% of my shopping online and most places offer next day delivery so no rush.

I'm with you MagicalCreatures no way I'm panic buying during the Christmas rush.

I've also had a loss and I'm not sure I'd be able to give it another go if this one didn't arrive.

I just have the attitude that this is my opportunity to experience it all, no matter what. I told my friends at my birthday do when I was 5 weeks! Because I relied in them to support me after my mc. I told my collegues too because eventhough the mc was supposed to be kept quiet a rumour went all round my workplace so I wanted to take control.

I started buying clothes this week, 18 weeks, as I found out I'm having a boy. I think it is harder to find cute baby clothes for boys because a lot of their outfits could equally suit a man in his 60s so I thought I better start early to make sure it gets to enjoy being a baby and wearing things it defo can't get away with as an adult. I also like taking advantage of a good sale!

I'm having a great time. I'm currently choosing travel system and sleeping places but I wont buy those till later.

@SoyDora oh wow 😂 snap!!!
This is my first so I’ve got absolutely everything to get. And I’m not a shopper (literally my worst nightmare) so the thought of fighting all those Xmas shoppers whilst I’m heavily pregnant is a definite no.

I started buying at 6 weeks with my first. I brought a pram in the Jan sales and brought blankets, small bits of clothing etc. I am a but superstitious but trying not to be like that as i am 9 weeks now and picking up our travel system today. Wont be kept in the house. We have a box that we have as people start to find out they have brought us neutral bits and bobs.
Trouble is, i really think its up to you when you feel comfortable buying things. If i was to loose this one i know of course i would be sad but everything we got would be used at some point. Its all about how you feel, if you want to go buy things then go do it! Everyone has their own opinions. I dont believe there is a right or safe time to buy baby things. My best friend lost hers at 36 weeks and she had brought stuff later on, just because you but before 12 weeks doesnt mean you will loose it. She announced her pregnancy soon in as she got a positive test this time. If you see something you like go get it, i find it makes the pregnancy a but more enjoyable and real x

I'm not superstitious. If something happens, it will happen regardless of whether I've bought stuff or not. I'm 12 weeks and my mum has bought a couple of bits on sale: a book and some grobags. If something comes up on sale that we want and it's a good deal, we will buy it to save money.

Should we, god forbid, lose our baby, then the stuff would go away into the garage for the time being.

I think it's a personal thing and if you want to buy things then go for it. If something happens, it'll be painful and sad regardless of whether you've bought some babygros or not.

Prams generally have a 2 yr warrenty. So od buy that as late as possible as dont want it sitting there being unused during warrenty.

I have my 12 week scan next week and have planned to go buy a few tocken pieces aferwards if all is well. As i am excited!

The reason most people don't is not about superstition (though that might be what most people say) it's because people find it hard to say out loud there's still a chance you might lost it and from experience it can feel very traumatic when you've just lost the baby and stumble across the tiny baby vests and have to decide whether to store them or give them away . I've had miscarriages after 12 weeks so now always wait 30 or so weeks plus to buy - also helps save storage space, and remember that with your first lots of people will give you things (and new babies generally need less than you'd think, or specific things that you won't always know in advance).
Saving up for the new baby to me makes tons of sense though! Then you can have a big spree later on.

After 20 weeks, not because I am superstitious. Mostly got things towards the last 2 months.

My advice (4 DC on) is buy as little as possible, only what you need, bare minimum, avoid gimmicky things. If you need something then buy it after they are born.

I was putting money aside for maternity leave though from early pregnancy.

Just before my 20 weeks scan when I could feel baby moving I got something grey so I could get a little excited xx

I have the opposite view of the superstition thing. I think buying things for the baby lets them know you're waiting for them and excited about them arriving into your family. I think it's more tempting fate to not prepare for the baby, but that's just me personally (I can get a little ~woo~ about things sometimes). I never wanted to buy anything with my pregnancy I lost, I think I knew there wouldn't actually be a baby to buy for. My successful pregnancies, buying little things early on had felt very natural.

Thank you everyone :) as I said in my previous comment I've already miscarried twice so completely understand where everyone is coming from. I think I'll hold off until my 12 weeks scan xx

A pack of vests after my 20 week scan. Then nothing else until 35 weeks.

Well, there's definitely no such thing as tempting fate, so buying things now certainly isn't going to make something go wrong, however the stats do show that there is a risk of something going wrong before 12 weeks and you just have to assess how you would feel emotionally if something were to happen, and you had to look at the things you'd bought. Personally, I've waited until after the 20 week scan in both my pregnancies but it is up to the individual.

I think there can also be a risk of overbuying if you start too early - if you're buying things for 8 or so months you can end up with more stuff stashed away that than you realise! I've been doing lots of reading over the past few months to find out exactly what I need, and also asking friends with babies what they genuinely found useful. You can also avoid buyer's remorse by thorough research before buying - a pram for instance. I've spent the last two or three months researching and trying out pram models and looking on Gumtree and eBay at them... Now I have an idea of what I'm looking for and what a bargain would be, so I'm in a position to get exactly what I want at a good price now. A few months ago I had no clue and would have unknowingly wasted my money.

I've got a much younger brother who I helped my mum buy everything for, so I'm fairly clued up on what's not worth buying ect, I know everything I want, just gotta keep my eye out for the bargains over the next months as I don't want to buy everything new as sometimes the second hand stuff is just as good 😊

I’m just going to save then buy what I want at around 30

I think it’s a fine balancing act... not too early or not too late. Fortunately we started at 16 weeks (the plan was to wait til 20 but our pram was on offer!) and were done by 30 weeks. I’m glad we did as I was in hospital from 32 weeks (after a straight forward pregnancy!) and DD arrived at 34 weeks. With the madness of a preemie I was glad we weren’t then squabbling around to buy anything other than tiny baby clothes (which on the whole was dealt with by family.)

So do as you will... but be prepared that babies have their own agendas 😂

There's no harm in picking up a couple of little cheap bits if it helps your nesting instincts and helps it feel more real. Just be realistic and sensible. Congratulations