Literally feel like I cannot cope

[Beeperbird]

I’m a SAHM with a 2yr old and I’ve got a week left until my planned c section with my second.
This pregnancy has been rough - diagnosed HG & hypertension.
Last pregnancy I remember feeling great at this stage (haha but maybe that’s rose tinted glasses)... slower than usual but healthy.
This time during last week and this week I feel awful, just awful. I can’t sleep either during the day or at night. Luckily have stopped being sick but feel nauseous and heartburn constantly. On cyclizine and rantitidine. Have cramps & period pains a lot (but nothing regular).
Worse thing is, that I just don’t want to do anything. I don’t want to interact with my son, I’ve taken every offer of childcare available. I want to lie in bed and just veg. I feel mentally drained and unable to “do”. I’m crying a lot about I don’t know what. I just feel like I can’t cope, and if I can’t cope now how the hell am I going to cope when DS2 arrives in a week???? Feel like I’m letting everyone down, particularly my son who was literally lost his mum to her bed the last week.
Is this normal?!

I remember feeling like this at the end of my pregnancy, and I didn't have HG- so it completely understandable that you feel so low.
You should definitely spend this week just resting, and sleeping when someone is looking after your son, you need to save your energy for life with a newborn, and a toddler just take it as easy as possible, and don't beat yourself up.

Oh, and for being nine months pregnant in this heat!

Thanks dontforgettofloss the heat is definitely NOT helping! 32 degrees here currently 😢

Honestly give yourself a break. You’re knackered, heavily pregnant and it’s hot as hell. Plus you’re still unwell. Of course you don’t want to do anything!

Park yourself and kiddo on the sofa in front of a fan and the telly with snacks and cold drinks and just chill.

thanks Bowlofbabelfish
I’m prob making this worse by stressing about it rather than accepting it!

I’m 35 weeks, HG all the way, SPD to the point I can’t rally walk outside the house my gallbladder is packing in. It’s hot as Satan’s armpit here and I feel like shite.

Believe me, my agenda for the next few weeks is as little as is humanly possible, with ice and a fan. Rest all you can, if you need to entertain a kid then this is exactly what iPad/tv is for. Kiddo can sit with you in bed with iPad.

The pressure on women to be Pinterest perfect ‘always doing an activity’ when they’re sick, pregnant and it’s hot etc is ridiculous. You rest, woman!!

It's perfectly to feel how you are going from 1 DC to 2 us scary for most! Do not guilt yourself about doing things with your DS. He'll never remember his mum wanting to chill before his sibling comes along. Enjoy the rest stick Netflix on and all will be fine x 💐💜 Good luck next week. Come back on and let us now how you get on!

Ah sorry you’ve been suffering too Bowlofbabelfish it’s bad enough being sick but in this heat?!?
There’s so much pressure - even from my mum who said surely I can’t put the tv on for my son more than an hour a day 😫
I’m sure his brain won’t melt out of his ears!!

Thanks Angelmiracle you’re right he won’t remember 👍🏻