Miscarriage or hope?

[DollyDaydreamz]

So I have been in limbo for well over two weeks now and after today’s EPAU visit I feel like it is getting worse not better!

So here is the tale.... after 7 months ttc DC#2 I started to bleed on morning I turned 9 weeks (no cramps or any other symptoms) I went to doctor who booked me in (2days later 😩) for a scan at local EPAU. Started off just brown spotting on wipe but that night had some clots and real red bleeds - I felt sure scan would show miscarriage but scan showed gestational sac and yolk sac no sign of baby (measured approx 6 weeks!) said I had to have rescan in 2 weeks as they have to allow time etc before anything else can happen - they basically said due to size I shouldn’t get hopes up & most likely I would miscarry naturally before rescan. 5 days of spotty bleed then nothing. Today I went for rescan and they see something inside sac but it’s very small and no heartbeat visible. So another week wait before anything conclusive. I am so confused and this thing feels so miserable - it’s like I cannot be happy as I feel like it’s all wrong (nothing fits my dates and all preg symptoms gone!) I wished the scan showed nothing - now that feels horrible - ahh it’s rubbish 😢 Just wondered if anyone else has been in this situation and got through - it feels like I’m loosing my mind!

Sorry cannot help but just wanted to say the same. I went on Tuesday for a reassurance scan due to cramps a couple of weeks ago. Was 8 + 4. I have been fine since then. Still got symptoms. Just went for peace of mind due to previous miscarriages. I was anxious but actually hopeful. They told me beginning of pregnancy is still there, sac etc. But they couldn't see any heartbeat. Baby was measuring under 5 weeks.

They are doing a scan in a weeks time but are telling me most likely miscarriage unless i ovulated late. But due to how many weeks difference, they kind of said i should expect the worse.

Want to know if anyone had this but it worked out? I keep flitting between it being a miscarriage and being hopeful, due to lack of bleeding and symptoms still there

I’m sorry for previous mcs @Lottie2shoes - this situation that we find ourselves in is the worst! I was almost hoping this latest scan would be clear as the limbo state is driving me mad. The pregnancy loss nurse (god that job sounds so unbelievably awful 😢) was VERY surprised that my pregnancy had continued to progress (last time she basically said the sac is still there but given your dates we would expect baby to be seen so we don’t want to get your hopes up....... It’s so off my dates though I can’t feel happy - just seems to be drawing out this process even further. I’m sorry you are in this situation too 💐 When is your next scan? Ours is Monday 6th (due to our holiday - which will now be hard to enjoy!) this should be the date of our 12 week scan 😞 As a side note have you had booking in appointment? - I cancelled mine now so I haven’t had it I guess I still won’t need it......

Yes it is hard not knowing. The first day i resigned myself to thinking it definitely is a mc, i was dealing with it better. But those doubts have crept in since and ive started giving myself hope. I had my booking in on Monday, she referred me for the scan the next day.
My next scan is on Wednesday.
I sincerely hope all goes well for you. You have a good chance since it seems to have changed since your previous scan
Tbh i think i know what to expect for myself deep down due to previous mcs.
Good luck

Hi Dolly and Lottie,

I know how you’re feeling as I got news today that although they can see 2 foetal poles, neither has a heartbeat. They measure around 6 weeks (by my dates I should be 12) so they’ve told me that it doesn’t look good.

I feel like I’m on a rollercoaster, they are rescanning me in a week and have told me to try not to worry but it’s more likely than not I’ve miscarried.

@Everstrong so sorry to hear your news. The two week wait for second scan is agonising- I actually don’t know how I survived it - it seems so cruel to be in limbo and preparing yourself for something so horrible. Feel for you. 💐 Hope you have good support around you. I’m having to wait another week on top for another scan after pregnancy has progressed even though my dates put me at 11weekss and there is still no heartbeat - it’s horrible as although you don’t want to be told you have miscarried at least your not left questioning / fretting and there is some closure 😩

You are so completely right @DollyDaydreamz. I feel like I can deal with whatever the outcome is (it might not be easy) but I can’t stand the uncertainty.

My DH is around and has managed to get the weekend off work. Sad to say I’ve packed an overnight bag incase I need to go to hospital.

Sending positive thoughts to you.

@Everstrong I am glad to have pushed for that reassurance scan even when i was feeling better. I think it would be very agonising to be told at the 12 week scan that the pregnancy hadn't progressed. Especially as most people feel safer when they hit that 12 week mark. That happened to me last time. Was anxiously counting down the days then thought i hit the safe 12 week mark. Had scan and was told baby had died at 8 weeks.
I was still having symptoms and had no cause for concern. Anyway hopefully this is Gods way of telling me im not ready yet and my time will come when it comes. At least i hope so. I sincerely hope it works out for you. Must have been a very tough time.