AIBU to think my midwife has fobbed me off slightly?

[Paie]

I've had quite a difficult pregnancy, in and out of hospital the first trimester with hyperemisis, which has continued throughout the pregnancy.

I've also had rashes, random blotches on my skin appearing and pain in the pubic area that's now affecting my ability to walk around.

I've spoken about all of the above with midwife, and every time get the same sort of dismissive answer. "Oh it's just a pregnancy thing" And nothing more said.

Have just read an NHS page about SPD and PPGP and it's pretty instant you should have this in your notes and be getting help for it ect.

I'm 39 + 3 now and hopefully only have one midwife appointment left so not a lot I can do-
AIBU to feel like she hasn't taken me too seriously and that something could've been done to make this more comfortable?
She was my midwife with my first DC and I had no complaints then

The pain in your pubic area does sound like SPD/PPGP and, yes, your midwife should have considered this as a possibility.

Don't know about the rashes and blotches though.

I would definitely raise the pain and the difficulty in walking around, to your family and everyone else who might be involved in the first few weeks as well as the midwife. It might affect how you labour and how much help you need post partum.

OP did you get to see your GP for any of your appointments? In my practice there are certain GPs who deal with maternity health so you end up booked in with one of those for some of your appointments. This allows you to bring up issues that you think a midwife has missed or is talking crap about.

Haven't seen a GP for a midwife appointment but have seen my GP/ Every single GP that's worked there during the course of this pregnancy generally for morning sickness though 😂

I spoke to my midwife about the same sort of pain today and she too brushed it off as a pregnancy thing.

@Reader1984
There's the link I was talking about, much more information than just being told it's normal. This is my 2nd DC and I didn't have this the first time round!

www.nhs.uk/conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/pelvic-pain-pregnant-spd/

Have you asked to speak to an obstetrician at any point?
I had awful experiences with midwives from start to finish of my pregnancy and insisted on consultant care.

I'm sure they're many midwives who are great but in the whole if your pregnancy isn't textbook they're hugely dismissive.

I had physio for pelvic girdle pain - it was awful, you have my sympathy! And had no trouble being referred for this. It will/should pass when you have the baby but I think you should have been offered more help. Do you want to be bothered about it now though?

I had spd with my second, my midwife said it was a pregnancy thing and she could refer me to physio if I wanted but by the time I'd get an appointment and wasted my time, as there wasn't much that would help I'd of already delivered my son, I started to suffer from 20 weeks but became unbearable around 34 weeks. Was advised a belly support band and to avoid hot baths. Spd is due to your body creating to much relaxin and your pelvis not being supported correctly, a hot bath helps in the moment but makes your muscles relax more thus making the problem worse.

Have a look at the pelvic partnership website for advice. It's invaluable. I've suffered through three pregnancies with pgp and it's dreadful. Get help asap. Go private if necessary. Keep moving as much as possible.

Good luck!

Sorry your midwife has been rubbish. This definitely sounds like pgp - I've also had it through 3 pregnancies (along with sciatica). I second the pelvic partnership website, it's a brilliant resource. I think you should say something - you could have another couple of weeks left. I also needed to have physio after the birth of my last child so I do think you should ask for a referral even at this stage.

Things that I found help - hot water bottle (like that's something you want to do right now), clenching when walking upstairs and turning over in bed, sitting on birthing ball and resting/walking in equal measure.

Hope you feel better soon.