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Open cervix and bulging waters at 23w. Would you go for rescue cervical stitch?

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Decafplease · 24/07/2018 15:53

Please only respond if you have experience of this. I was admitted yesterday after check showed an open cervix. This is was to be my miracle baby after 4ivf tries and 1mmc. I have been offered a ‘rescue cervical stitch’ but with grave warnings that the procedure itself is very difficult & could cause rupture and infection meaning immediate miscarriage. If it worked though could help maintain pregnancy for a few extra precious weeks that could make a massive difference to outcomes. Other option is to wait, which could be hours or days or weeks as well. Not sure if i would regret more potentially doing something harmful or doing nothing if things dont work out. Has anyone been in this situation? Please please tell me what you decided and what happened? We have to decide tonight and i am desperate. No judgment from me just desperation.

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CobaltRose · 31/07/2018 14:34

Oh @Decafplease, I'm so so sorry for the loss of your little joy. I am heartbroken for you. Sad

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GreasyHairDoNotCare · 31/07/2018 14:34

Oh my goodness OP, I am so very sorry Thanks

CobaltRose · 31/07/2018 14:35

Ugh, sorry about typo! I meant little BOY.

So sorry again Sad

BellMcEnd · 31/07/2018 14:35

Oh God. I’m so so sorry for your loss, Decaff. I’ve been wondering how you are. Life can be so unfair, can’t it. I’m so sorry that you lost your beautiful boy. What did you name him? Sending you so much love and light. Continue to post here if it helps xxFlowers

alwaysthepessimist · 31/07/2018 14:36

Oh @decafplease I am so, so, so very sorry for your loss. Flowers

ThatsNotEvenAWord · 31/07/2018 14:38

I’m so very sorry for your loss Flowers

DowntonCrabby · 31/07/2018 14:45

I am so very sorry for your loss decaf.

SANDS were of huge support to my best friend and partner when they lost their baby, they will always be there for you.
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annlee3817 · 31/07/2018 14:49

I am so so sorry for your loss, I can't begin to even imagine the pain you must both be feeling right now. FlowersFlowersFlowers

HariboHippo · 31/07/2018 14:49

I am so truly sorry for your loss. I have been in this position. Dilated cervix and bulging membranes at 17 weeks, after 2 years of infertility and a miscarriage at 11 weeks. They offered me a rescue stitch following a scan but with grave warnings that there was infection present, and that it could prove fatal to baby and even myself, or ruin my fertility completely. They also thought the chances of successful rescue without rupture and getting to viability were very slim. Eventually I chose to be induced and gave birth to a tiny tiny baby. It was a horrific time and I am thinking of you. I hope the hospital are doing everything they can t preserve memories for you. Mine were amazing. I struggled with guilt for a long time but amazingly caught very quickly afterwards completely unplanned and now have a 4 year old and I think that distraction saves me a little. It was a long time before I accepted I did the right thing for us. I had a cerclage at 13 weeks with my son plus cyclogest and clindamycin and the stitch caused no issues for me. Be kind to yourself. PM me if you would like to. I remember that time as truly heartbreaking. Flowers

beccii161016 · 31/07/2018 14:55

Oh my word I am so so incredibly sorry for what you're going through. Sending you all the love and prayers in the world to get you through this awful time. Thanks

BounceAndJump · 31/07/2018 14:56

I'm so so sorry for your loss.
I know nothing any of us say can ease the pain, but I just wanted to say try not to guess at reasons/causes and definitely don't blame yourself. Mine were born at 32, 28 and 37 weeks, no apparent reason for the 28 weeker being so much earlier and clearly my body can carry to term as shown by my third, there was no signs of infection, no differences in what I did in the pregnancies etc. Sometimes its just unavoidable and there's no answers to be found.

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PugwallsSummer · 31/07/2018 14:59

Thinking of you and your precious little boy.

YerTiz · 31/07/2018 15:00

So sorry, thinking of you and your little one Flowers

CurlyWurlyTwirly · 31/07/2018 15:01

I am so very sorry for your loss OP. Bless you & your little boy x

mostdays · 31/07/2018 15:02

Oh Decaf, I am so, so sorry. Flowers

trumpetoftheswan · 31/07/2018 15:06

Decaf, I'm so sorry to read this. There is no hell like it.

Take care of yourself. All good wishes for the future.

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Lightsong · 31/07/2018 15:06

So sorry this has happened to you OP Flowers

haverhill · 31/07/2018 15:07

So very sorry Decaff. Be kind to yourself xx Flowers

Hjkillas · 31/07/2018 15:09

I'm thinking of you and your little angel, I'm so so sorry FlowersFlowersFlowers

Celebelly · 31/07/2018 15:10

I'm so sorry. I have no other words. Thinking of you x

AWhistlingWoman · 31/07/2018 15:16

I am so very, very sorry for the loss of your son. Thinking of you. I definitely recommend having a look at SANDS when you are ready.

Harveyrabbit76 · 31/07/2018 16:13

Hi Decaf, I am so, so sorry for your loss. Its a terrible time and if you want to talk to anyone then I am here. Please take care of yourself xxx

Dorabean · 31/07/2018 16:19

I'm so very saddened to read this today. Surround yourselves with as much love and support as you can. Your hearts will have broken into more pieces than you can imagine Thanks

minmooch · 31/07/2018 16:56

I'm so sorry for your loss xx

purpledreamcatching · 31/07/2018 22:13

I am so sorry for your loss Thanks