Worrying at 11+2 and still waiting for booming in 🙄

[AliceRR]

I’m 11+2 so not far off from the 12 week point when I should be able to get excited and tell people without caveating it with “it’s still v early” due to the risks in the first 12 week’s but I just can’t stop worrying that things might not be ok.

I have no real reason to think anything is wrong. No bleeding. I haven’t been v sick but have definitely have a long list of symptoms which come and go (which seems normal) and the nausea has lessened now but I think that’s also normal at this stage? But worry about missed miscarriage. I’ve even been googling the rates this week and it’s apparently v rare (1% if pregnancies) so maybe I’m being over anxious.

I think what’s not helping is I still haven’t got a booking in appointment or scan appointment. My fault really as I went to my 1st MW appointment and told her I wanted to have my baby in Leeds rather than Bradford, thinking she’d still do my booking in and then refer me, but instead she said Leeds would have to do it.

My GP claims to have referred me to Leeds. The Leeds MWs are saying they haven’t got it. So I am having to keep calling them but feeling a bit out of control.

Just want my scan to find out if everything is ok!

DH is super excited and has been telling more people than I would have done as he is convinced nothing is wrong...

Sorry my post is so long!

I’m on annual leave this week which probably doesn’t help as I’m sitting home alone thinking too much

Could you book private scan just for reassurance? I know when I went for my scan I was convinced they were just going to be like there's nothing even in there why are you wasting our time. I too spent ages googling statistics like you, and although the 12 week scan eased me for a bit, I worried and asked my MW to listen for a heartbeat at 16 weeks for further reassurance. This appointment was only a week ago but feels like an eternity. I'm hoping the worrying will eventually stop when I start feeling movement.

Another option if your GP hasn't referred you, maybe worth contacting your local midwife team directly and self referring?

Hope you get it all sorted :)

@FirstTimeBumps I spoke to DH about an early scan and we decided not to. He didn’t think it necessary (since he thinks nothing is wrong) and I decided I don’t mind waiting especially as I’m close to 12w now but I thought I would have had a scan date by now.

Also realistically I should get the appointment in the next couple of weeks so it will just be more difficult to have time off work for 2 scans in a short period as my employer doesn’t know yet.

I initially self referred to Bradford but at my booking in was told to get go to refer me to Leeds if I want baby thereS I have called the Leeds midwife team directly several times but they have said they need the referral from my GP and keep asking me to speak to GP surgery again, who say they have now sent it three times, so I’m just finding it a bit stressful.

Are One-to-One midwives available in your area, that may be another option?

@FirstTimeBumps No I don’t think so. A colleague and friend who is pregnant (but much further along) told me about that yesterday and I googled it but seems to be around Liverpool area

They've got a client stories section o. Their website with a woman talking about having moved to Leeds and registered with them. Maybe worth giving them a ring and enquiring.

Can you go for a scan this week whilst you are off. Tell your husband it's best to have it ASAP so they can check things like nuchal fold etc and you don't want to wait to check it's viable any longer.

TBH it's your body and you can just go for a scan without him if you feel you need to. He doesn't really get a say!

@FirstBumps ok thanks. I’ll check.

@Sursurration I can’t really go without him this week as we are going away tomorrow til Friday so there is no time. And then on Monday I am back at work and will be 12 weeks so should be getting my appointment through. Having a private one will just be another half day out of the office at a time when I am already having time off/ I’m having trouble with my ears too (think preg related) so have an appointment on Tuesday for that. I think if we had more free time this week I might have done that.

DH isn’t really stopping me from having it. We discussed it and it’s a decision we made together really plus I don’t think I’d want to do it alone.

Before I opted for Leeds, a scan appointment was requested for Bradford so in should in theory be getting an appointment from Leeds and Bradford so should be able to take the first one but wish they’d hurry up!

I have my booking in and scan on 10 August I will be 13+5.

Pleased to have the appointment finally. It is a bit later than I would like but hopefully it will be a good outcome

I Iva Eminem then too Alice and I'll be 13+5! Good luck x

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@goatsgalore good luck to you too!