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9 weeks and scared for scan next week incase of another miscarriage - need positive examples!

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NEW2THIS2018 · 24/07/2018 11:00

Hi Ladies Flowers

Basically, my first pregnancy, I miscarried at 6 weeks, it was the most devastating thing I've went through, so much so, when I think about it, I still get weepy Sad (I miscarried in February of this year).

We starting trying again and fell pregnant, I'm currently 9 weeks. This pregnancy has felt different, I've had a ton of symptoms, such as I'm nauseous all the time, headaches, shortness of breath, food aversions, really sore breasts, frequent urination, fatigue and congestion, a part of me has this nagging but really happy/excited weird feeling that I'm expecting twins at my next scan, but another part of me is shutting down all hope and setting myself up to expect the worse news at my scan next week after my first miscarriage. Then I get annoyed for thinking this, its such a vicious circle. Sad

I'm hoping that some users will share their positive experiences of their rainbow babies to somewhat cheer me up and not expect the worse for my scan next week! Also any twin pregnancy experiences would be great so that I'm not going mad overthinking!

Thanks xxx

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Chickenandegg8 · 24/07/2018 13:55

I’m currently sitting here cuddling my 5 week old rainbow baby.
Had 2 miscarriages last year, totally heartbreaking and pregnancy afterwards was so full of anxiety. It’s so so hard.
I was the same going for 8 week scan. Convinced I would have had another miscarriage I was a nervous wreck! But there was a beautiful little heartbeat.
To be honest I didn’t find it got any easier until I could feel him move everyday. I had many more symptoms but I was still so so anxious.
Fingers crossed for you op. Xx

LoveRainbow02 · 24/07/2018 15:07

I'm playing with my cheeky 5 month old rainbow baby right now. I went through years of trying to conceive and sadly miscarried my first last year. Quickly got pregnant again and my son is now 5 months old. I was a nervous wreck throughout my pregnancy with booking lots of private reassurance scans but I now have my rainbow baby.
Hope you have a happy and healthy pregnancy!

WelshMammy123 · 24/07/2018 15:16

I have two rainbows - one who's 3.5 and one 6 weeks. DC1 came along after years ttc and one MC. DC2 came along after a MMC and a tfmr. I was a bag of nerves throughout my last pregnancy. Had loads of scans as I was high risk and hated every one of them as was so scared of getting bad news. Despite the heartache over the years I have my two little miracles now.

Congratulations on your pregnancy and wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months x

Pomfluff · 24/07/2018 20:46

I had 2 miscarriages (5 weeks and 10 weeks). The second one was more traumatic because the embryo stopped growing at 7 weeks but I only started spotting at 10 weeks, went in for a scan and saw on screen that there wasn't a heartbeat. I dealt with it relatively well at the time and got on with my life.

However I got pregnant 2 years later and all the memories came flooding back. I actually avoided getting a scan done because I was so terrified of seeing bad news again on the screen however DH forced me since I have a few health issues that ideally need to to be monitored early. I made an appointment at 8 weeks and was a total wreck in the days leading up to it. I had panic attacks, insomnia, and was irrationally convinced that there wouldn't be an embryo in the sac.

So you're reaction is definitely normal! I can't imagine anyone having gone through an mc to react any differently. On the actual day of the appt I was shaking and on the verge of tears in the waiting room...the gyno calmly drew a diagram of "what we should expect to see at 8 weeks" and I was freaking out because I didn't want to hear what should be there and just wanted the scan to be over with. It was an internal u/s and picked up a sac but it looked empty. I immediately started crying and saying it was empty but he told me to slide further down the table so he could get a better angle. Then amazingly, it showed tiny embryo with heartbeat inside.

I'm currently 17 weeks with everything looking good (really really hoping this is my rainbow baby) and you do feel a tiny bit more reassured with each scan. My anxiety is definitely not entirely gone...I can't fathom how women celebrate and buy baby clothing as soon as they pass 3 months :P! I feel like I can't fully relax until week 30 or so when I know the baby should be ok even if it's taken out now! I still get moments of anxiety especially when I read mentions about late miscarriages/stillbirth on pregnancy boards but I've learned to be ok with it and try to focus inwards.

Wish you lots of luck and once you see a heartbeat it will be the best feeling ever!!

coffeekittens · 24/07/2018 22:07

I had a miscarriage in April, here’s my 9+1 baby! I’m so sorry for your loss. As awful as it is early miscarriage is very very common (1 in 4 pregnancies).

Congratulations on your pregnancy and enjoy your scan Flowers

9 weeks and scared for scan next week incase of another miscarriage - need positive examples!
camberskank · 24/07/2018 22:13

So sorry you went through this. I have had three miscarriages and understand how heartbreaking it can be.

I'm currently 25 weeks pregnant and felt exactly the same way that you feel now. I had some bleeding at 9 weeks and accepted that I had had a fourth miscarriage. I went in for a scan at EPAU and there baby was, with a beautiful flickering heartbeat. I sobbed my eyes out. I had never felt relief like it in my life.

I'm currently in bed watching baby kick. Can't quite make out hands and feet bit my belly does jump a little. It's just amazing. I never thought it would happen to me, but it has. It's happening and I still can't quite believe that I'll have my baby in my arms come November.

Wishing you the best of luck OPFlowers

hiddeneverything · 24/07/2018 22:18

I had a mc at 8/9 weeks last February. I now have a six month old delightful baby!!! I went into my seven week scan expecting to have had another mc (no symptoms, stomach cramps, bleeding) and there he was jumping about on the screen! F.C. for you xxx

camberskank · 24/07/2018 22:20

@hiddeneverything I know that exact feeling of being convinced that it's another miscarriage. It ruined the first trimester for me - in hindsight I wish I had have enjoyed it more. 25 weeks pregnant and can't wait to meet my little one. It must be the most incredible feeling... so glad it all came good for you in the end.

MyBambi · 24/07/2018 22:39

I also miscarried with my first pregnancy I was 6weeks.It was so hard for myself and my partner and I thought after the second month of trying it wasn't going to happen again.On the fourth month of trying I had a positive result that I was pregnant and was over the moon and scared like you it was going to happen again,to the point I told noone about the pregnancy until I was 5months.Easy for me to do that because I had moved country and didn't know anyone here...but when I got past my third month I felt such a relief and was confident enough to stop thinking negative about it..and would buy a little item for the little one so it got me more excited.Now she is asleep beside me in her Moses basket ☺️ I would also look at sights that show week by week of your babies development and it got me more excited...think positive X

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