Could you picture yourself pregnant?

[FlapJackered]

I am currently ttc and have this really weird feeling it isn't going to happen for us. I just can't picture getting that bfp, being pregnant and definitely can't imagine myself with a baby.
Despite this I really do desperately want to get pregnant and have a family - I just can't see it happening. 🙁
I guess I am just wondering if any of you lovely ladies who are pregnant or/and have children ever felt the same?

@flapjackered I was convinced I couldn’t have children. There was no real reason for it, I just felt it.

Now 19 weeks and baby is looking very healthy so far. Our brain just has a funny way of messing with us!

I couldn't! Had a foreboding feeling that I wouldn't be able to get pregnant/carry to full term but DD is happily sleeping next door, 9 weeks old. Don't be put off, that's nerves, not intuition, talking! Good luck!

Yes I felt exactly like that. I just knew it wasn’t going to happen for me.
Currently 17 weeks with my third.

I couldnt.we tried casually for a year and I was getting to the point where I just thought,knowing my luck this just isn't going to happen for me.currently 12 weeks pregnant so don't let those thoughts consume you!

Thank you all so much for your kind replies, I can't tell you how much it means to hear that.
AF turned up again and I just was beginning to convince myself it was an omen that I couldn't picture myself pregnant, but you have given me hope. Thank you!

I couldn’t at all, I was convinced due to extremely irregular periods it wouldn’t work out for us, so I avoided trying. DH was telling me I was silly so we finally bit the bullet and figured we would start trying, fortunately for us it happened very quickly and our 7 week old is snoring on the sofa next to me 😂

How long have you been trying for? Have you been to the gp if it’s been a while?

Never. And I've had 3!

I even saw a pregnant woman once, looking fabulous and glowy, and thought "ooh, I wonder what I'd look like pregnant!" - I was about 30 weeks upduffed at the time.

I couldn't picture myself pregnant when I was pregnant. Then when I was pregnant I couldn't picture myself with a newborn. With a newborn I couldn't picture myself with a toddler. Now I have a toddler and can't picture myself with a school age child.

It never really went away for me haha! It's a very surreal and life changing experience that no one can really prepare for so it makes sense that we feel that way I suppose haha!

It’s such an emotionally fraught time ttc, you get really caught up in your own head and negative thoughts sometimes

I tried on and off for a long time (with 2 different partners) and yes by the back end of it I’d lost that positive vision of me being pregnant and carrying the baby. I just couldn’t ever imagine it happening and began to really, really consider myself infertile, full stop. I almost began to accept it as well.

Now I am 35 weeks and honestly the day I got my BFP is such a surreal memory, it’s lovely to think about but still doesn’t even feel real.
Baby is kicking me in the ribs now and I’m swollen to the point of being unrecognisable so I’m definitely, 100% pregnant lol.

Best of luck, it CAN happen, don’t worry if you don’t “see” it. You don’t need to visualise it to make it possible, just try to keep negative thoughts to a minimum, for your own sanity!

Yep! It took 20 years of TTC and 5 rounds of ivf. I didn't think I would ever get pregnant but I'm now 14 weeks!!!

Not at all! I'm nearly 12 weeks and still can't picture it! I honestly didn't think it was something my body was capable of doing. It still feels so weird to me!

I remember thinking it must be incredibly hard to get pregnant and that it wouldn’t happen for me. I got pregnant a month after having the implant removed and I actually feel my best!

Thank you for your lovely stories, it has made me feel so much more positive about it all so thank you very much. 🤞🏻

I couldn’t either. We were TTC for over a year when it happened and now I am actually pregnant I can’t see me with a bump. It feels so surreal

Funny story but I cried to my OH on the Saturday, because I was certain I was infertile. My period was late but I had a BFN so "assumed" my ovulation hadn't happened.

I got my BFP on the Monday and I'm 22 weeks pregnant.

After two years and two cycles of ivf and being told we had shitty chances I honestly could not picture myself pregnant - currently 12/40! Still not sure I see myself as pregnant! I think my TTC journey has meant I've struggled to accept its really happening!

Ok so I am super pleased I found this post because I was thinking the same thing the other night whilst deep in my crazy anxious TTC thoughts.

To be fair, I’m a big believer in this whole law of attraction and the universe thing. Many times have imagined something and I have got it. But being pregnant, having a bump, wearing maternity clothes, giving birth, holding my baby? Nope. I just can’t. It almost seems to good to be true. How could I ever be pregnant?

I don’t get it. I want it so badly but I just have this underlying feeling it’s too good to be true. I had a chemical pregnancy in February and then a MC at 6 weeks in April so I’m super sceptical now.

I’m so glad I found someone else that thinks this. But reading all these lovely replies has given me some sort of hope! best of luck OP x

Couldn't picture it at all. Have 9 week old dc2 asleep on me and I can barely remember being pregnant already. Probably for the best with the hyperemesis and all

This is entirely how I feel. Tried for many many cycles and now told my amh is low. Honestly don't think I'll ever carry my own child.

@juneybean I have diminished ovarian reserve and sat here pregnant - don't lose hope x

Thanks @hoping2018 x

Yes, we thought we would have infertility issues (husband had been told in the past he may have them as a result of an illness when he was younger) and then a family history of recurrent miscarriage.

Two pregnancies, two healthy children. I can't believe my luck.

Oh thank goodness other people feel like this! I'd put it down to never having been especially good at 'feminine' stuff, whatever that means (I had somehow equated being able to nail a french plait and successfully carry a clutch bag with being able to carry a child......), but I'm 12 weeks now and still convincing myself my little bump is probably just bloating! 2 years ttc, a few chemical pregnancies and one MMC... I really thought it wouldn't happen.

I genuinely believed it would never happen for me.

I'm not trying my hardest not to cough so that I don't wake up my 5 month old daughter!

*now