Baby Gender Revealed To Me without my Consent?

[kamilahbobo]

With my second pregnancy I have decided to keep the surprise on what is our baby gender - as I did with my first.
I just don't feel a need to know as have no preference on that whatsoever, but the surprise at the end of journey is priceless. More important for me is the fact baby is ok and healthy during the pregnancy and do not want to even know if it's boy or girl untill the birth.
At my 32 weeks growth scan lady ultra sonographer kept saying "he", "he","he"..
I kept ignoring it thinking it's the way person propably speaks of a baby in this form but later when I returned home it got me thinking. Currently I am 39+ waiting for the arrival of the baby and feel if that really is a boy and the person revealed it to me unintentionally I may get bit fuming..

Sex not gender 😣

I think it’s just a default term used x

Do you realise what a difficult job sonographers have? That day your sonographer probably had to tell at least a couple of people that their baby had died or was seriously ill.

My best friend is a sonographer and she once had a complaint made against her for referring to the feotus as 'it' as they felt it showed a lack of compassion.

To say you'll be fuming is a complete over reaction. Just be happy to to be in the situation you are .

Blaablaablaa I agree! I had heartbreaking news at a scan! OP doesn’t realise how lucky she is

Unless a sonographer or scanning doctor explicitly said “it’s a boy/girl” I’d just assume that they were just using a random pronoun to avoid referring to the baby as “it”.

Even during welfare scans at the end of my pregnancy, they didn’t go anywhere near baby’s genitalia- the only time they did was when I asked them to check she was still a girl!

You’re overthinking this.

Well... Get a grip.

People do make too big deals out of being a surprise at the birth and gender reveal parties. Both make me cringe.

It's a baby. It's wonderful that it's here. It doesn't need any more hype, even if pregnancy can be a tad boring.

Seriously, even if she had accidentally revealed the sex, ywhbu to be fuming or upset.

Would you have preferred her to say "it" then?

Whenever I see "gender" when people mean "sex" I feel irritated.

I feel like you should be “fuming” about this. Try harder.

Those pregnancy hormones really do make you overreact to what is an non issue OP. You've got a healthy baby and you're going to found out pretty soon regardless. Please save the word consent for something that warrants its meaning.

This. Plus also, sex not gender

@tilly I'm so sorry that you had to deal with that.
My friend has such a tough job and does it with absolute due diligence and compassion yet has to deal with petty complaints on weekly basis. People don't realise the stress this adds to an already stressful job.

By the growth scan stage (I had mine at 34 weeks) everything is so squashed up she is unlikely to have seen any "bits" unless you specifically asked her to and likely used he rather than it as frankly that always sounds a weird way to call the baby.

Without sounding harsh concentrate on the fact you have a healthy baby and healthy pregnancy and let go. You will never know either way as it could well be a boy but she didn't necessarily know that.

I was told at a scan that baby is often referred to as He.

he or she sounds kind than 'it'.. we call our baby 'the baby' but when relatives takes about the baby they all say he or she. it's just a phrase of speech I think when the gender is unknown. you weren't told directly that baby is a boy.. or a girl... so nothing is confirmed :) u will stay have a lovely gift at the end x x

The OP is 39+ weeks and is probably a bit nervous about what lies ahead, possibly feeling a bit hormonal with it.

It might be unreasonable to react like this, but this lady is about to give birth and probably doesn't need some of the comments on here. It's just a misunderstanding by the sounds of it.