Not sure whether to complain about midwife

[LG123]

I have a new midwife now as I've moved areas but anyway here it is.....

My last midwife made a referral to social services (this isn't what I'm upset about) and I've had the assessment, they're happy etc and have closed the case.

I got my report through the post yesterday and wow let's just say the midwife went to town on me and made me sound horrendous. I was reading through the reasons for the referral and can categorically say that they were just untrue.

She made me out to be an alcoholic drug addict, and that this had made me have liver difficulties (I have never had liver difficulties and I have never taken drugs!). She said I had history of cocaine use (not true) and expressed concerns that my drug and alcohol use could have a harmful affect on the baby, as if I was still drinking during pregnancy etc. I gave her no reason to think this - I haven't had a drink since New Year's Eve (before I even knew!) and I told her this when alcohol use is bought up! She proceeded to say I had a chaotic upbringing - we didn't talk my childhood and I most definitely did not! I left home at 16 and partied a bit as you do when your young but prior to that I had very good upbringing!

To top it off when she told me why she made the referral this was not in her reasoning!

I would love to know where she fabricated this all from and SS could obviously see that I was making good preparations and not drinking or anything!

To see what she said about me was really hurtful and kinda made me angry as it's just simply not true!

I'm half tempted to complain!

Could she have confused you with somebody else? As in, is it so far removed from you that it just can't be you she's written about?!

I don't think so as there were some factual bits but there, such as I was looked after by SS when I left home at 16 and that I'd missed appointments, I missed 2, 1 was because I was at work and totally forgot, the other I tried to rearrange but it took her a number of weeks to get back in touch and I couldn't get hold of her.

@LG123 that's really unfair of her to say all that when it's not true! I'd complain OP. Quite serious things she's said and a bit bizarre

I'd 100% complain.
Getting social services involved is really serious, so to do it when there's no reason to could have been harmful!
She's massively crossed a line and needs to take responsibility for her actions.

Complain. Definitely. How strange of her.

It sounds as though she wrote the report with someone else in mind. Possibly writing two referrals at the same time.
If you have the energy, I would write and ask that the incorrect facts be removed from the report. You actually don’t want this on any sort of formal record for future use.

Complain.

If as PPs have said she could have mixed you up, so there will be a poor baby out there not getting the help they need.

If she however has written it out of spite she will only eventually get picked up for doing it if you complain.

Also you need your own records corrected to prove she is clearly talking bullshit. In future years someone - a neighbour, a nursery worker, teacher or whoever - could report you to SS again and this report could come up so it is worth sorting out now.

If there's stuff there that isn't true you definitely need to complain, if only to set the record straight. You don't want anything like that on record that isn't true... just in case it comes back to bite you later down the line (child custody battles, other social service referrals etc... not saying they are likely to happen but always worth watching your back!). Regardless, it is unpleasant to have lies recorded about you and you deserve an accurate representation of yourself!

Absolutely complain. It may be worth doing s subject access request for anything held by the trust that she wrote about you during the time she was supposed to be caring for you. One set of lies may belie more lies.

Definitely complain!