Pregnancy in your 40s

[TeachersPet2018]

Hi,
I'm looking for advice and some help to sooth my confused mind. I am 42 and since I can remember I have been adamant that I didn't want children. I was married for 20 and that opinion never changed and I was always terrified of what I would do if it happened. I've been single for a few years and I met a wonderful guy earlier this year......and now my thoughts seem to be changing. The thought of a child doesn't scare me any more. I'm not going to actively try but after chatting with him we've decided to just see what happens......is this an unusual change of heart/mind?

I am 41 and expecting my first on new years eve. I always wanted children but not with any partner before I met my lovely husband. If you are ready, go for it! Everyone has been lovely and there has been no stigma. The pregnancy has been fine so far. Good luck to you!

So just discovered I’m pregnant (1-2weeks) clear blue. I’ve had wettish pants all week. Managed to see the doctor today who was a complete disaster. Seeing mid wife in a week and a half. But is this normal so early on?

So sorry I didn’t mean to tag on to the end of this existing post! But since I’m here just to let you know I turn 41 next week. So yea for first time mums in their forties

This was me! A 10 year relationship, didn't think I wanted children. At 37, realised I did want children just not with him.
Met my lovely DH at 38, married at 40, had our dd at 41. It was a straight forward pregnancy and only took us 2 months to conceive.
43 now and pregnant with our 2nd.
I love being a mum. I finally feel complete and content.
I hope it all works out to you.

@Latetothe you will get lots of discharge throughout pregnancy. As long as it isn't itchy and/or smelly it is nothing to worry about. You may also get bloody discharge like a very light period for your to 12 weeks. If it lasts any longer than this or is heavy then you need to seek medical help.

Yes I understand completely- never wanted children but then everything just seemed right when I met my lovely partner. DD1 at 39 and DD2 at 43 and life is wonderful. We get married next month!

I would advise actively trying if you have had a change of heart as we found it a lot harder to hit the jackpot with DD2 and unfortunately had two miscarriages on the way.

Good luck to you

I am 43 and got married at 41, after meeting my husband at 40.
We would like children although we feel lucky to have found each other and so a baby would be the icing on the cake.
We’ve been trying for 2 years. I fell pregnant last year but suffered a miscarriage which was an extremely painful time.
As with backhometothenorth, I’d advise trying straight away and to be aware that it’s not straightforward. I’ve heard loads and loads of success stories so it’s definitely, definitely worth trying.
We were extremely excited when I was pregnant, not appreciating the dangers, and it’s best to be realistic and act cautiously.

@bluebug45 very helpful. Thank you :)

I'm thinking more about it, he really wanted children in his previous relationship and sadly lost 2 pregnancies so now worrying about that. Thank you for all your advise. Congratulations on all the pregnancies and children........who knows, this might be my happy ever after too xx