Why do I feel like this?

[Mary94]

I'm 24, got a job I love and felt like I was just about to start enjoying life... My partner and I have been together for 4 years we just bought a lovely house in May which we have been working hard towards. We had big plans of having lovely parties and going on holiday for a few years getting married ! then eventually have children in about 2/3 years time. 4 days after we moved in to the house we found out I'm pregnant. Total surprise , I've always dreamed about having a baby and of course with my wonderful partner. But I just felt like I knew in my stomach this isn't the right time. But straight away we bought books about pregnancy haven't stopped talking about me being pregnant etc. I have been happy about it but I've also been so down about it, I can't shake that feeling. My 12 week scan is next Wednesday and I keep thinking (horrible I know ) I wish I could go back in time and actually have seriously considered a termination when we first found out. I feel like it's too late now we're so invested. Has anyone else felt like this? Will it get better? Or do I have to deal with the fact I will always think this is the wrong time? And I'm missing out on our lovely life we planned together not having the huge responsibility of a little one?

Similar to me. Me and my partner moved house and literally found out 3 days after we had moved that I was pregnant. We had only been together 18 months so haven't been on holiday yet and lots of other things you want to do before children. I never considered termination because it's something I have always wanted. We moved from a 3 bed house to his 1 bed house. My baby is now 6 months and iv just found out I'm pregnant again. Now I keep getting worried and down at the thought of 2 children my little girl will only have just turned 1 when the new one arrives. I worry about money, my job, the fact we have got to move and my partner said only the other night that he wished we had done more as a couple before children. I forget constantly that I'm pregnant but as soon as I feel sick or my boobs hurt it hits home again that we are going to be doing the sleepless nights all over again and I suffered really bad with PND

If it helps at all OP, I have one very much planned for DS and I felt similar when I found out I was pregnant - happy and excited sometimes, doubting myself at other times!

We're now trying for DC2 and I already feel the same - I'm probably not even pregnant yet, that's how daft it is!

It's a big life change and it is totally normal to have mixed feelings. Only you know what the feeling in your gut, but don't overthink things and look for problems that aren't there.

Congratulations and good luck with whatever you decide to do.

It's a huge life changing moment, so if it were unplanned it's bound to stir up your emotions. Stay level headed but accept how you may feel, don't tear yourself up over it. You may feel differently at the scan when you see it for real!