6/7 weeks pregnant with 4.5 month old....scared.....advice please?

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Hi,
I found out on Monday that I'm pregnant again. My son (firstborn)was born 8th March. Just as I began to cut breastfeeding to combi feeding I had one period return and now pregnant! Hubby and I wanted our kids close together but I was hoping to hold off until nearer Christmas before falling pregnant again so thought I'd maybe avoided my fertile period but clearly not! The initial shock has worn off, then I felt bad and worried because I had been drinking alcohol at the weekend at a bbq. Now I'm just a bit scared at how I will cope. Baby will be due in late March next year so my son will be just 1! I also feel guilty because I'm worried about not being fit to run around after my son when im heavily pregnant and also because I didn't initially feel thrilled at the bfp, just utter disbelief!. Although now if course I am also getting excited and looking forward to the scan and meeting our new little one. Hubby is overjoyed and very supportive and a fantastic father.
I'm due back to work in January so also anxious about telling them, they didn't replace me being off on maternity and my team has been under extra pressure, they are going to be annoyed when I am only back for a month before going off again!
I had to have an emergency cs after a prolonged labour and my son's head got stuck in my pelvis. During the procedure they nicked my uterus. The surgeon said they repaired it but it's weighing on my mind and I will want to opt for an elective c section this time, I hope they don't pressure me into a vbac. At least with cs I know what to expect and can arrange care for my son in advance.
Our families live quite a bit away so we don't really have much family support close by, but I know they will try their best to help out. My mum passed away 2 weeks before I found out I was pregnant with my son.
I'm just having a vent as haven't told any of my friends yet and just wondered if anyone has been in a similar situation and offer any advice? Thanks.xx

Congratulations. It will be ok.

I have a small age gap between mine and they are each other’s best friends and really love each other. It’s worked out so well.

As your son will be not quite one when you are at your heaviest in pregnancy, the likelihood is (if he is walking at all) it will be slow wobbly steps so running after him isn’t the same effort as it would be if he was 18 mths old or older. Also, as you had a caesarean within the last year, having an elective this time will be straightforward to agree due to the timescales for your uterus to have healed.

You don’t have to return to work for that month - you and your employer might prefer the least disruption and you could take it as holiday or parental leave.

Also, as your son is still so young he is hopefully napping during the day so you can have a bit of time to sit down. This is also easier than pregnancy when they are older and always on the go.

I know it is a shock but there are lots of positives and, as I said, it really will be ok.

Thank you for your reassuring response and I hadn't thought of things that way! There really are lots of positives like you say. I'm still feeling overwhelmed with it but of course feel extremely blessed and fingers crossed I have a good healthy pregnancy with no severe side effects like I did with my son.
I had already considered putting my son into day care one full day or 2 half days a week from October to get him used to it before going back to work, and probably still will as it will give me a little time to rest up.
My grandmother had 8 son's all close together and lived in a tiny cottage and I keep thinking if she can do it with 8, I can surely manage with 2!

Close would be easier than chasing a fast toddler/preschooler. I have to actually run to keep up with my nearly 3yo if she's on a mission - particularly if we've started from the floor!

I had a emcs which sounds very similar to yours with my first, my consultant was very relieved when I said I wanted a second section. I think the duration between pregnancies should also count in your favour for pushing for a repeat.

Congralutions